Is this controlling?
Hey ladies! So here’s the thing…do you guys think I’ve been controlling or just asking for consideration and communication? So my husband started a new sales job…and he choose to partner with this guy from that job to go do the selling together. But he leave the house 9am and don’t come home until 10-11pm, and now before he comes home, he’s choosing to have some beers with this dude. So now he’s coming home late at midnight. My issue is, he’s not telling me his plans after work, until I call him to asked where his at or until he gets home late at night… is been going on for 3 weeks now and I’m so fed up…he doesn’t care and continue to do it and not telling me. He’s only excuse is “I’m not doing anything wrong” he thinks he can do whatever he wants without telling me…I don’t like this guy he’s working with…I believe is been a distraction…this guy doesn’t have kids or wife waiting at home for him. And I feel he’s keeping him away from us. But my husband think I just want to control him.
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Not controlling. When you are expected to be home and plans change you need to tell your partner what is happening.
He also doesn’t need to be hanging out with friends every night after work. He has a family and should be home helping.
I think at the very least he can tell you what his plans are, just out of respect. I don’t think expecting or asking him to do that is controlling
Not controlling
Asking for simple consideration the bare ass minimum.
I can understand maybe a few nights a week, but again not communicating is inconsiderate.
That other man has no kids or wife at home so how's he going to compare apples to oranges?
How often is he going out and is he spending anytime with your kid?
I'd tell him if he wants to act like a bachelor with no familial responsibilities bye.
He sounds like an ass!
No it's completely reasonable to expect that he communicate his plans and whereabouts
If you were controlling you'd be manipulating him into feeling so bad that he stopped going or threatening to do damage if he keeps doing it
Here's the thing. A good father and husband would WANT to come home asap, I mean they still might have beers occasionally but once you have a family that's where you should want to be
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