Screamed at my 2y/o :(

While I don’t really have thoughts to offer I can say you’re not alone . My fiancé works out of town a lot and I’m also a ft working mom with a two year old . It gets hard and stressful . I always feel bad for raising my voice with my son and find myself apologizing to him too. We do have to remember we are human.

I agree, I had the same internal struggle for a while. Telling them about your emotions vs projecting them is two different things. It’s in the way we word it and approach it.
“I feel angry and frustrated right now, I need a moment to calm down and breath myself back to safety.”
Vs
“You make me feel so angry and frustrated!!! Get away!”

“Hey I see I blew up on you earlier and let my emotions get the best of me, that happens sometimes when our emotions feel overwhelming. I would like a do-over. Im sorry if I hurt your feelings when I did that. It wasn’t your fault, I was just feeling a lot in that moment.”

I hope that helps! It’s okay to FEEL our emotions. Just remember the way we approach them or express them is the way they’ll learn to do so too. I’m currently learning healthy ways to express/feel my anger without hurting others in the process by projecting it out. When we grow up with parents that demonstrated their anger through punishment, abuse, or manipulation.. we’ll it’s helpful to find out what a healthy expression of anger would actually look like. So we can feel safer expressing it and not guilty about it.

this is great advice!!

We all have had moments where we regret what we said to our little ones. Or how we reacted to something. It is important to acknowledge this with our kids no matter how small. I like the idea of asking for a do over and it’s also something we can do with them when they are having a tough time.

Always remember their brains are not developed with full reasoning capabilities- that doesn’t happen until the 20’s I have read (exact age escapes me and it’s probably different for everyone). It’s good to put words to emotions because it teaches them to be able to identify their own emotions; and connect back with kids after a frustrating moment and show them love and safety.

As a single mom who works FT I really relate! I literally looked this up last night because I was like what changed?? Why is he testing boundaries so much more?? And it happens at 25/26 months. I follow advice from mindful mess mom on ig. She talks about how kids can trigger us when they’re defiant and how to get through it. Check her out!

I screamed quite a few times on my little girl, welcome to terrible twos but I always apologized later and I feel that helps because I remember the apologies as a child when any adult would get mad or sad around me..

It’s ok!!!! This happens. I definitely would say that you were frustrated/angry to him. They’re learning emotions right now. Try breathing techniques and let him see that you’re doing them too. You also need to find time to do something for yourself. Which is hard I know. It doesn’t need to be a whole spa night. Just something that brings you joy.

And also, I think this is an age thing. My 2 yo has recently become very extra. Hitting, angry things, even spitting when he’s mad. Very deliberately going against everything I say. Like it’s a game. The “testing the limits” phase starts. And won’t end until their 18 lol. Just try to be consistent. That’s important