Wtf is wrong with me? :(

Lately, I'm just feeling so burnt out emotionally. I just wanna give up at this point. I just feel so deflated. I don't know if it's pregnancy (14 weeks) or if its where we've had a bad month money wise and struggled the last few weeks. I just don't know. But I am struggling I'm finding it difficult to deal with my 10 month old and hes not even a difficult baby, my partner does help me may I say but I still find myself burnt out and just meh. I came off my anti depressants just before I fell pregnant as I didn't want my next baby to be born withdrawing as it's a nasty med (venlafaxine)
I don't even know how to explain how I'm feeling, but I feel like the worst mother in the world on top of all this. Pls say its not just me 😞
I just don't wanna do anything anymore, the moment I wake up I have backache and I feel nauseous 24/7 my anti sickness doesn't help either 😔 I honestly feel horrible 😢

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I just wanna know that I'll get better and won't feel like this forever 😞

Hey! I have a 12 month old and 12 weeks pregnant and its definitely super hard. It should get better in the coming weeks but in general 2 under 2 should be hard for some time but will be worth it in the future ✨ . Keep being strong and doing amazing! Also ask for help wherever possible. xxx

I promise it will get better I was in a depression when I found out I was pregnant I thought maybe the depression might lift as growing a life is so precious but it didn’t I found out when I was 4 weeks I only came out of it at 10 weeks so for 6 weeks I had it and felt like the world was crap I always got diagnosed with HG sickness as I couldn’t keep anything down which made everything worse while trying to care for my 4 year old autistic son.
But now I’m out of it and doing so much better.
Honestly you will be okay it just takes time growing a little life is very tiring on our body and minds don’t be to hard on yourself. I’m always around for a chat 💖

Everyday is another day in your journey, we have good and bad days as someone who is also a sufferer of mental health things do get better if you try your best to put yourself in situations and environments that keep you calm and happy, if you benefit from therapy I would recommend having some and if not try writing everything down in a journal and be completely open and honest about how you feel when you get some time to yourself. You are not a bad mother because you recognise you’re not ok and that is the first step. But I promise you will get through it. You were brave enough to say something and it means you have that inner strength to overcome anything that comes your way. It may feel like the end of the world but you woke up this morning with air in your lungs and a roof over your head and you are able to write and read and feel emotions. I’m so proud of you, you are stronger than you think babe x

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