Anyone else's husband a workaholic?

My husband works near constantly. He takes overtime shifts a lot. Probably working 60-70hrs a week, and when he's not working he's frequently working on repairs, renovations or maintenance of our house or vehicles. I really appreciate his efforts. It's great he can do much for our family and I get to stay home but I'm very lonely and doing the majority of the parenting. We have 4 children and live no where near family so I don't have a village of support.

The he comes home, spends time with kids briefly and by the time I get them all to bed or doing their own thing, he falling asleep. If he's not falling asleep, he will occasionally try for physical intimacy. I don't want to have sex because I never see him and we get almost no quality time. He never takes me out on dates, or buys me gifts, or flowers, or plans anything. There's zero romance and he says he's just too busy and doing those things doesn't occur to him. He could work less but chooses not to.

I'm going crazy. I've talked to him about it a lot, express my needs and feelings directly and yet the years go by and I'm still neglected.

Anyone else deal with this? What do you do? Advice or input? Thanks!

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Am I wrong for getting upset?

Long story short. My cousin made a group chat for bridesmaids and groomsman to plan out bachelorette party.
I sent one text about finding a sitter and my cousin texts me to stop saying stuff like that cause no one gives a shit? As if no one else is gonna mention their personal lives during planning a trip of 10 people?
I. Put the screenshots. I got so hurt I told her just count me out if the mention of my kid offends everyone.

Having a bit of a sad day

I don’t know if I want advice or just to get it out a bit.
I had a bit of a rubbish Mother’s Day, and then today had a falling out with my mum.
Very long story short, me and my partner turn 30 this year and were thinking of taking a short trip (2-3 days max) just the two of us to celebrate. Our son will be 2 by then.
We had discussed leaving our son with our parents and them sort of splitting having him (eg. My mum has him one night and my boyfriend’s mum has him the other two nights, or whatever we collectively decide on). They are both happy to do this.

Yesterday my MIL was pushing my son’s pram and got distracted and pushed it off the pavement into the road, a car missed the pram by about 5 seconds. This upset me a lot.

Me and my partner discussed this later on and I said it worries me leaving our son with her in case she does something like that. We also discussed the fact that my mum pays very little attention to our son when she’s with him and is absolutely glued to her phone (looking at social media etc) so we might just take him on holiday with us.

Then this morning I had a chat with my mum and told her we would probably just take our son away with us. She asked why and I mentioned the pram thing with my MIL so she said she would just have him- so I thought it was time to mention that when she’s with him she is glued to her phone and gets distracted and that it just worries me a bit. (For reference she’s been watching him before and because she’s been on her phone he’s managed to get half way up her stairs.)
She absolutely lost it at me. Called me rude etc.

I try so hard not to upset anyone and I’m just so so fed up now. I just wish it was simple and we could trust them to take care of him but they are both away with the fairies.

I want to talk to my mum but i don’t know how to approach it now. Just feel like i need a big cry.

Ughhh

I am so overwhelmed!! My baby isn’t sleeping and I’ve got a raging headache and all this legal stuff is making me feel irritated and I just want to cry.
I absolutely hate the idea of letting him just cry while I take 5 seconds

I really hate to come out here and tell my business about what’s going on with my life in my kids, but I had no choice

I just came back from a parent teachers conference meeting and they telling me that my second daughter, who just turned eight about a week ago that she barely know how to read and she has speech problems… I already feel like shit because it’s not that I’m doing my job. It’s because I worked a lot, and and every time, me and my first oldest daughter, trying to teach you how to read, she gets insecure and thinking that we making fun of her, but we’re not!! I felt like a shitty mother I don’t know what to do.

First Day/Night Out without Baby

So I’m due to go on a hen party next weekend just for the afternoon/night and I’m soo nervous to leave baby girl. She will be with her dad (my husband) and I know he’s more than capable but I’m so nervous to leave her. He struggles sometimes with bed time as baby girl really likes to fight her sleep so I end up doing bedtime 9 times out of 10. And I’m worried he will just let her “cry it out” for a while before he goes to pick her up and settle her. I really want to go out and have a good time. But I’m just nervous about going out anyway in general because I’m still not 100% loving my new mum body. But mostly I’m nervous about leaving baby as it will be the longest we’ve been apart 🙈

I might be in trouble for asking but I want to do right by my baby!

So my two month old son keeps watching me eat. and does little chewing faces and drools so much and sticks his tongue out and get mad when I say no and offer his bottle and he goos and awws at the food all the time. What should I do ? I know one time while making his bottle I think I had some sauce from dinner and I didn’t get it all off of his bottle nipple because I didn’t see it in time but he spit it out and made a face 😕 but he didn’t have a reaction otherwise and his poop changed for one poop and went back to normal the next.