Does separation anxiety peak around 9-10 months?

Basically the question 😂

My baby has been sleeping through the night and would sometimes wake up for a feed. But recently she's been waking up screaming bloody murder, really hard to settle, not even waking up for a feed. I think she's waking up, can't see us so she and just screams! We have to stay in her room with her until she falls asleep which can take ages because she keeps waking up.

Is this normal? Do they grow out of it?

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My 9 month old LG has been really similar! She been a beautiful sleeper pretty much since birth but lately has started waking up an hour after being put down screaming blue murder and then will wake up moaning for us about 2-3 times in the night. Her bedtime is 7pm and last night she woke up at 8pm, 11pm and 3am (I gave her a feed and changed her nappy at the 3am wake up) and she did about 30 min intervals of tired moan after 3am until around 5am 😅 were hoping its just a phase! She's also just learned how to crawl, sit up from lying down, and say a few words so I'm also thinking she's going through a big developmental leap, which could also be the reason for all of these wake ups!

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My 8 month old has started doing the same actually. She used to sleep through the night since 4-5 months old without a feed (we did dream feed her around 10-11pm though). Now she's walking up 2-3 times a night and as soon as she sees my face she starts screaming until I pick her up. And as soon as she's in my arms she settles. I'm hoping it's just a phase... 🤷‍♀️

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My little girl, goes to bed at 6pm evey night and doesn’t wake up untill 7-7:30 next morning have you tired offering your baby girl a drink of water during the night she could just need a drink, my girl is 10 months now and has been sleeping all night from about 3 months old.
she went through a stage where she would not sleep and was constantly waking up, it was my mam who suggested giving her a drink of water at night and now I always leave a bottle of water in her cot for her so when she wakes up she can get the bottle her self and drink the past 4 months she has slept and when she has woken up it’s only to either put her dummy in or her blanket back on, give it a try if you’d like yous are doing your best and hopefully your little one grows out of it x

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I have been going through the same and last night I put her back in her old crib in our room and she didn’t wake. I don’t want to go back to this but I think the reason is separation anxiety. I have been going through at least 5 night wakings per night for 3 weeks straight 😴

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thank you for the idea. I've started dreamfeeding my LG again, which is something I want to avoid, so maybe a bottle of warm water before I go to bed will help. I'll certainly try it x

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Sounds like separation anxiety, normal at this age my youngest started this a few weeks ago too. I remember it was particularly bad with my first child (also a daughter) it passes just a stage. X

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I think it is! She woke up 4 or 5 times last night 😬

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we've had a week of one or two wakes but she woke up 5 times last night 😬 hoping we are in the worst if it now and it will start to pass soon!

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