Advice on family

they don’t wanna participate they don’t care

If they don't care to follow the rules you set for YOUR child, they don't need to be around. They need to realize that doing what you feel is best for YOUR child is not the same thing as being an unreasonable control freak. You are simply trying to keep YOUR child safe in the way you think is best. If they can't respect that, it is a them problem, NOT a you problem.

If it’s in facebook you can report the picture because it’s a minor being posted without parental consent and they will remove it

Ask someone else to help you with things if you can. I don’t understand why he asked but did what he wanted anyway?! There’s nothing wrong with not wanting your child posted on social media, fil can get on board or piss off, it’s as simple as that.
You’re not using your son against him, if he can’t be trusted to not post pictures on social media he can do one and he’s done that to himself. Stand firm x

I tried to report It before I did it loads and it’s still on Facebook didn’t get taken down

So.... I reported the photos when my grandmother posted photos.

Also, I use the app family album so that people can see, share, and comment on photos there instead of social media.

I did it like that and it said something went wrong I tried it loads

that’s a good idea but they wanna post on their Facebook

Mine did too. I said it's this or nothing. Remember, by not choosing to follow expectations and be respectful of your parenting choices THEY are making the choice to go no contact, not you

they’ve said I’m creating it all and that’s what I want and stuff which it isn’t the chase I just feel it’s not gonna stop here :(

Don’t feel bad for puting in a boundary. It’s your child. When he says he won’t if he can’t take photos tell him ok bye

Maybe share information or links to information about safety on social medias? Show them why its so important to keep pictures to8 family only, ect. Perhaps that can help make him understand that it isnt a you against him thing, but more of a family team effort to keep baby safe.

Some adults egos are unbelievable

Sorry you’re going through this :( I don’t have any advice but I too, do not want photos of my baby on socials for at least 1 year. Nope, nope nope

I completely understand why you don’t want photos on social media and it’s your baby your rules which everyone who visits should 100% respect!!!

However, I think asking them not to take photos even for themselves when it is their grandchild has maybe come across the wrong way, understand the not posting completely.

Maybe you could say that of course they can take photos for themselves
On their phones, but just ask that they don’t share them on social media.

This is what I would do , and it is not too much to ask! As everyone has said, your child your boundaries and your not being unreasonable ❤️

Just been reading the comments, if someone confiscated my phone whilst I entered their house and I had to put it in a basked upon my arrival I would not return 😂 and I do think that’s completely controlling so maybe don’t do that haha xx

I just don’t trust the fact if they take pics what will they do with them pics as before they posted

Each to their own I just think that’s awfully controlling to ‘confiscate’ somebody’s phone like in school, and if you were to suggest that after already being called controlling you would just prove him right in what’s he’s saying!

If they don’t respect your wishes after being told with reason (which I completely understand you don’t want them on social media), and would rather not come if you can’t post pictures on social media then simple don’t come, then it’s on them and their problem not one that you’re creating for other visitors aswell.

Your the mum, with every right to set your boundaries, if people don’t like it… lump it! 😊 xx