New baby = Jealous Older sibling! HELP!
New baby has arrived and whilst our 3 yo is more tha happy to help with nappy cahnges and engage with baby she has been having huuuuge tantrums. I know her emotions are very big for her and she is going through a huge transition that she is trying to navigate, but as a parent, I don't know how I can help to support her with this change.
Any tips? Particularly from those who have a 3y age gap?
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Shes starting to revert to baby behaviour too which I know is normal. But she is being lazy with using the toilet, refusing to let dad help, its a lot!
Make sure she has enough 1 on 1 time with you and don't acknowledge any of the regressive behaviour. Just keep reminding her she is a big girl and how well she's doing, all tjose wee things. Even mention how baby will be doing all those things with her when they are bigger. Not sure what else you can do 🤔 maybe there will be others that can help
My brother was 2 1/2 years younger than me so my answer is based on that. Try to set aside time for both parents to have 1-on-1 time each week to go do something special with the older child. Small gifts periodically would probably help too. Even something like getting to pick new sheets for her bed may help her feel special and like a big kid. And time, like you said she’s going through some big emotions so just be patient with her.
The biggest challenge atm is when I breastfeed and cant seem to meet the eldests needs whilst I am feeding...
Did you breast feed her? I breastfeed my third and had 3&5 year old at home. I explained that I did the same with them (they were bottle fed but I meant the time with just them).
The hardest thing for my boys was seeing baby getting all new stuff. I explained that whilst she has lots of new clothes and toys, they did at that age too as they grow so quickly. Now their clothes last close to a year they don't need as much. I tried to just explain how whilst they can't remember, they had the exact same at their age. It will get easier x
You can message me. We can have a chat and I can give you some tips. Take care x
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