Insecure

So my boyfriend, openly admitted to watching adult videos to please himself. I’m 32 weeks and 2 days pregnant and I have tried to initiate but he turns me down. I’m feeling really insecure about this situation because I was little before I was pregnant and I’ve gained weight and he stopped telling me I was beautiful or anything once I started to show… Help please..

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Maybe talk to him? I doubt that it has to so with your weight gain love. Many men find it hard to have sex during pregnancy because it feels strange for them doing it thinking their baby is inside. So it might doesn't have to do with you at all ❤️❤️ talk to him!

I’ve tried talking to him about it and I laid out how it made me feel and all he said was okay and then went into the bathroom and did it right after… I just don’t know what to do… This is our first and I’ve been super emotional and stressed out

I wouldn’t worry about it, bc we haven’t been intimate in 2-3 months. He does whatever all day and I’m just doing whatever all day too. This is bc I’m a high risk pregnancy & really it’s because I turned him down one night bc we was arguing earlier that day and I was having heat flashes. It don’t mean he shouldn’t want u to be intimate bc you can do things to him. Which is what I tried to explain to my bf before and yet nothing. So really it just makes me feel lost and disconnected to him in every way. But I got to the point where I don’t care. But if ur man is considerate and open and listens and actually spends time with u it’s something you can work out. Me and my bf just don’t spend time together or anything. & everything I say goes thru one ear and out the other.

I’m so sorry you’re feeling this way, it’s a terrible feeling! Maybe try intimacy cards? I used one called “pillow talk- cards for intimate conversation.” And it just helped having a lowkey convo that hit the same subjects in a different way without it being a “serious conversation” in his eyes. Maybe also try couples therapy or a less formal type with a sexual intimacy coordinator. I’m sure you look absolutely stunning and you’re glowing!!! If he hasn’t had many expressive older male role models he could just be copying behavior he’s seen from others rather than doing it with intention

Thank you and he has quite a few older male role models. I just don’t know what to do. Today I went into the hospital because of contractions and he didn’t go or meet me there he just said “let me know if it’s time or not” and continued to play on his phone. He has my password and can get on my phone at any time but he doesn’t even leave his phone laying around me when he gets up to do something. I just feel like there’s something else going on… Maybe I’m just over thinking it…

❤️❤️❤️ he should definitely be there with you- do you have any one from your support system around? I hate to think you went to the hospital alone today, especially driving. Separately, there has been times in my family where the older men have stepped in when one of my male cousins acted up with their wives when they were pregnant (weren’t being supportive or helpful, were disengaged). So if you feel like you can go to them and maybe they can talk some sense into them, then I’d reach out. Sometimes we are all young and don’t know any better and need some guidance outside of the couple, and that’s okay

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Anyone else up feeding their Bebe?

As above. Trying so hard to keep my eyes open

Is this normal??

I’m 29 weeks pregnant and having really aching legs and they’re all lumpy and swollen. Above the knee and behind the knee . Should I be worried ? My legs have never looked like this up until a few days ago. ??

Induction experience

I just wanted to share my experience with being induced as I wasn’t sure what to expect and thought it may help others.

I opted for the foley balloon which was inserted at 8am Saturday morning, I had to stay in hospital due to hypertension and protein urine however usually you can just go home once this has been done. The insertion of the balloon was not painful, was slightly uncomfortable as there was slight pressure. I actually found having the cervix checked prior to be worse (again not painful at this point just uncomfortable) The balloon had little effect and after having it removed I was still only 1cm. Removal also was pain free and hardly even noticeable.

I then had my first dose of the gel and definitely noticed a difference, I started experiencing period like cramps almost immediately however they were light and manageable. After 6 hours I had another cervix check and although my cervix was soft it was still only 1cm and was only open at the front. I had another dose of the gel and felt an increase in pressure and more intense cramping where I now required pain relief (codeine). After another 6 hours I had another cervix check and I had now dilated to 2-3cm however was still quite difficult to get all the way through so a third gel was recommended which I agreed to.

Almost immediately I noticed the difference and was in considerable pain, I had paracetamol and codeine however the contractions had now become intense and a lot closer together (around 3 minutes apart). After a couple of hours I had my last cervix check and was 4cm and taken down to the Labour ward to have my waters broken and an epidural.

I had been in my room for approx 20minutes when my waters broke by themselves and I was now 10cm and actively pushing…. There was no time for the epidural and my beautiful girl arrived into the world within 2 minutes of pushing.

All in all I would say the cramps/contractions were manageable up until the third gel where it became pretty unbearable however it was for a very short time a gas and air helped take the edge off. The worst part about any of it was actually the later cervix checks where after stimulating the cervix my contractions were at their most painful.

If I had to be induced again I would skip the balloon and opt for the gels immediately as thy had a quicker effect and I would have been out a lot sooner if I had done this to begin with.

One more thing, I’ve never believed when people say “you forget the pain once they’re here” but I can honestly say this is true. It’s been 4 days and I would do it all again in a heartbeat.

Anyone else experiencing this?

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