Erratic feeds

Anyone else got an erratic feeder? My LO is now 20 weeks (tomorrow) and literally since about month 2 onwards we have had the fussiest and most erratic feeder ever. Her feeds change DAILY, her mood changes DAILY, the amount she has per feed is different ALL DAY, different EACH day and so is how long she goes without, how many feeds overall and the overall amount too. It changes dailyyyyy. She’s quite petite too but has been gaining weight despite all this. Her weight only stalled once since she’s been this way and we are regularly reviewing it. She was consistently having lower amounts before too but has recently started having a bit more per feed and sometimes overall. Not always though! It’s honestly so unpredictable. She can have around 600ml or break a record and have 800ml. Recently we had our lowest at 550ml but we had issues feeding her all day as she was refusing most or having a tiny amount. Today she’s on a low too as she’s just not been so interested. All day she’s had low amounts but just now she had a 170ml feed - with some perseverance though - not just a smooth feed 😂! She can literally have 50ml and be done or have a 160-170ml or anything inbetween. She can go 3-4 hours or 2 hours. This doesn’t change based on amount. She will have 90ml and still happily go 4 hours if she isn’t interested too. Anyone else got babies like this? Does it ever get better? Does it change when they start weaning? Are we stuck this way forever? Feeding can be such a battle sometimes and everyday is the whole worry of ‘will she have enough today or will she refuse any bottles, will she be fussy during any feeds’? 🤦🏻‍♀️😂. Am I alone with this? Oh and she sleeps through too! She prefers sleep over food that’s for sure 😕!

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Should I wake baby up to feed?

First time mum here, my baby is 2 months old today. Should I be waking her for night feeds? During the day she feeds every 2–3 hours, but at night she usually sleeps from around 11pm to about 3am, and I’ve been waking her then. Is that okay, or should I let her sleep?

Night time help!

Hi! My baby boy is nearly 6 months old and every night he wakes up anytime from 2am onwards and will be awake for well over two hours.
I’ve tried changing his naps during the day, changing his bedtimes and yet nothing seems to help!
Any tips that might help this exhausted mummy?
I don’t mind the wake ups if he would settle straight away but he views it as a whole wake window.

Newborn sleep for 9 hours

Hello mamas, my newborn is 6 weeks old. Last night she slept for 9 hours without waking up for a feed. The previous night she slept for 8 hours as well. During the day she had quite a lot awake periods and she was eating well. She also gained 1kg for a month which the midwife said it's very good. Is she okay like that and should I wake her up to feed her during the night?

Crazy MIL??

I’ve always found my mother in law tricky - she has a hideous nervous energy about her and finds everything absolutely hilarious which sets me right on edge. We’ve just had a baby and she came down to meet her. It was very soon after baby was born so we were pretty knackered and I’d suffered bad hypertension in hospital and had had to stay in for a week. She had wanted to come and see me there but I managed to get my husband to say no- she would have not made my blood pressure any better!
So she came to see the baby a couple of weeks after with her partner- who btw had a chest and they didn’t tell us.
My MIL was at her most hyper and difficult. She stayed hours and hours and held the baby all the way though- fed her her bottle (just took it off my husband) without asking and took photos and posted them without asking.
Then I was changing the babies nappy. Baby had terrible nappy rash at the time and was screaming with pain - making me want to cry. My MIL just sat there watching - hooting with laughter. 🫠
But the worst thing is she made these WEIRD comments - there was a photo of baby just wearing a vest and she said she “looked a hussy.” Then later when we were describing about the baby having phototherapy- which was horribly traumatic- my husband said how he tucked her into his denim jacket to keep warm - his mothers response was “ah so she likes a bit of rough???”
I think in her mind she was being really funny but I was appalled by her comments. In the end I made and excuse, went upstairs to have a shower and then sat there until they left. I used to feel fed up and weary at the thought of her but now I feel pure anger. It’s tricky as obviously she’s my husbands mum. She also gave us the deposit for our house and is generally generous in that way. She and my husband have a really odd relationship in my opinion- I’m super close to my fam and they all live nearby so we see them a lot
His mum lives in Devon and we’re in Kent which is something to be thankful for.
After they finally went she messaged my husband and asked to come and stay for a week. Thankfully he has the sense to say no. But Christ what is wrong with the women? Those comments have made me feel so hostile towards her. Should I just get over it??

Baby won’t sleep

Somebody please help me.
She’s crying, I’m crying. Idk what to do. Husband isn’t here rn and my mom’s asleep.
She’s not hungry, diapers freshly changed, she doesn’t seem uncomfortable in any way. She just seems tired but can’t fall asleep. She’s been doing this for a few days now, just fighting sleep. I refuse to let her cry it out and I’m doing everything I know and can do at this time. She’ll take the boob but keep stretching away every few seconds. She keeps chewing on her hand like she’s hungry but won’t eat cause she already did 30 minutes ago. I’m just at a loss and starting to get stressed. Nothing is helping.

I need advise! On making daily bath time soothing

My daughter(she's 2) showers everyday she's been gettingg more and more agitated with showering her no matter if its me or her dad she never used to mind it except when washing hair she would holler like a banshee but bathing was fairly tame but now she's hollering in a way ypu would swear she's being wronged ... anyone else deal with something like this ?