2nd child due soon, 1st struggling

My daughter is will be 4 months off turning 4 years old when baby is born in 17 days, I have noticed a massive change in her behaviour, especially since we have set up all babies things, she’s struggling with me not being able to carry her & her not being able to lay on my belly like she use to. I think it’s totally normal that they feel/act this way, it’s a massive change for them, especially when all they’ve known is having mummy & daddy to themselves and now it’s becoming real for them that they’re going to have to share. She still doesn’t sleep through the night either (never has) and that definitely doesn’t help as she’s becoming super emotional too!

I don’t think my little one fully understands that he’ll be a brother in a couple of weeks time. Does anyone else feel an immense guilt that it won’t just be their 1st anymore, I look at him and get overwhelmed with guilt that he won’t have all my attention xx

yep!!! It’s totally normal as a mother to feel that way. I worried my daughter will feel like I don’t love her anymore😭😭😭😭😭

I think it also depends how old the child is, cos when I had my 2nd and my 1st was 8 years old I did have some worry but my son was excited to have a younger brother (although he did already have 2 younger brothers from his father) but this time I feel so much more worried about how my 4 year old child is going to react about not being the baby anymore. He gets so much attention from being the baby of the family from me and his big brother (not with his dad anymore but when he's with him he's get 1 on 1 attention too) so think it's going to be such a shock for him and he has been very challenging recently and even more clingy. I'm so worried he will think he's being replaced! I think because he's more sensitive than his older brother.

I’m so glad it’s not just us, but I’m sorry you’re little girl is struggling too! For the last 18 months she’s had the same routine, mummy and daddy go to work and she’s had my mum to herself. Then all of a sudden my sister and her fella have moved into my mum and dads with their dog (she hates dogs) and now they’ve had a baby and I’ve finished work, so the weekly routine has changed. We don’t feel welcome at my parents house as sly comments are made when we arrive ‘here comes the noise’ from my sister etc. I’m hormonal and fed up and hate that she’s feeling pushed out already :( she’s never hurt anyone but yesterday she was elbowing my tummy and head butting me…. So out of character. Everything is no no no, she wakes around 2:30 most nights crying for mummy and she’s barely eating too :( x

yes I feel the mum guilt every day and it breaks me x

it’ll be hard at first, but we just need to try and shower them with as much love as we possible can so they don’t feel pushed out (which I know is going to be so hard) also try and get them to help as much as possible (which will be so overwhelming for us) xx

I just feel like such a crap mum right now, it’s so hard isn’t it! Xx

yes it really is! My hormones are so all over the place & my patience is wearing very very thing! Xx

what date are you due?xx

17 days!!!
5th November. You? Xx

Eeek not long then! Due the 15th November, but section booked for 8th November xx

My little one will be 21 months. He's being more clingy, and I worry about him. Baby will come on 7th November at the latest due to her growth.

This will be my third and ive Band you tube! Apperently this means i dont care for the oldest or middle child cause it will be all about the baby! My eldest his behaviour has gone shocking he currently hates me even though ive put in alot of effort to have one to one time with him like day off school we went bowling when my youngest goes his club. I take the other for a hot chocolate. But hes started hitting me alot. And honestly its driving me mad! Your not alone x