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my son just turned 2 in July he doesn’t walk yet and doesn’t talk he was born at 26 weeks and he just started being able to crawl in august they said he will walk soon but i feel like he isn’t there yet he is so tiny for his age group and they are already talking about putting him in preschool

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Preschool will help with development skills. My son born at 27 weeks wasn't talking till right before he turned 4. Everything has been on his time table to do stuff. Think he was 18 to 20 months and crawling, walking was soonish after. It will come

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thank you i really appreciate this

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My son walked @ 20 months. He was born @ 34 weeks. I had him in pt, st, dt & all the therapy has helped a bunch. Hang in there mama

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your welcome, physical therapy and occupational therapy help also but same time from what I learned with my preemie was its all when they are ready. Everytime he learns something new that we wanted him to have sooner was just when he was ready. So now I'm trying to not push some things more like potty training because he will go when ready. And he is starting to tell us so

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he is in occupational therapy and pt alot right now i got him going every other week

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k just give time then. It sucks and feels bad as you see other kids and read and hear stuff but he will get there

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its just i feel bad as parent when i feel like i cant understand his needs and wants

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yep I understand. Have you tried sign language or making up your own signs

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maybe seek some advice and get prepared just incase they are all so different. give miss rachel ago on youtube that helped my son loads with sign language and talking. and just keep practicing with his walking. x

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I believe you are an excellent parent for anticipating his needs & always knowing what he needs are. It’s hard when they can’t communicate to tell you but I’ve had to do, & still, do this same thing. A very good daily routine has helped a ton for us. & I agree that delays will be met on his timeline, but I’ve found the therapies has helped teach me how to interact most effectively with my son. I wasn’t sure how to best utilize my time with him & with me learning from the therapists has helped me 7 days a week, instead of that one hour a week with therapist. Narrate everything you do & words will slowly start to emerge, on his time :)

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they told me this in therapy just this week because he doesnt yet focus really good

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My son is 3 and still won’t walk I wish he would and he still not talk yet which makes me feel like a failure sometimes but then I gotta remember preemie are different from regular baby’s and I just had another preemie baby back in June

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me as well my daughter was born at 34 weeks and it is so hard because she is meeting milestones that took my son a yr to get to

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I had my son at 25weeks and my 3 yr old at 27weeks

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I think Motherhood has made me more bitter than I realized…

This is such a ramble but I don’t know where else to put it all.

I’m four months in and I don’t really have hobbies right now. I don’t do anything for myself except maybe doomscrolling or listening to a podcast while I breastfeed my baby. I used to craft and have game nights with friends. Activities that usually are at least 2 hour stretches. Now if I have an hour free my mind immediately goes to baby, or doing something in the house for baby.

And I thought I didn’t mind. Like I knew postpartum could be very mentally consuming. But I think it’s altering how I view people around me and it’s prodding at my relationship with my husband.

He spends most of his time making food for us, looking after our dogs, playing with the baby, ect. But he still has time for his hobby. Spends maybe an hour a night on it. Even adapted to using a bot for shopping for his hobby after a certain incident where we had to have a heart to heart after he left me home alone with the baby for hours during a busy workday (I work from home) to shop for his hobby.

And yet there’s like this little green eyed monster in me that rages every time I know he’s running off to start up the bot. Even though I’m the reason he does it this way.

We took a family trip last weekend to see his best friend and their kids and let them meet the baby. He brought the laptop. He’s always brought a laptop on trips and it’s never been a problem to me before. But one night we both woke up while the baby was still asleep, and he wandered out of the room. I tried to fall back asleep but couldn’t. So I went to the kitchen to try having something warm to drink to settle me. And he was there at the table running the bot from his laptop. I flipped out at him. But there really wasn’t reason to. It’s not like I needed help with the baby and he was ignoring me. He wasn’t avoiding our friends. He was just awake and unable to sleep and found something to do with his time. Yet my snap reaction was “why the hell would you do this on a family trip?”

I don’t know what it is. Maybe it’s the less complete sleep from baby’s middle of the night feed? My brain being just consumed by baby? Maybe I’m not as over that shopping incident as I thought? But I’m just so annoyed at his hobby right now. The green eyed monster thinks “you could be using that time differently” but realistically to do what exactly??? Stare at our baby in the dark???

I spent probably an hour apologizing to him after I snapped. And he’s of course hurt and frustrated because I said some very mean things in the moment.

I don’t want to be this jealous, angry person. But I also don’t know how to find time for myself in this right now outside of basic hygiene. It’s like I’ve forgotten how to be myself, even if just for an hour.

Maybe I need a therapist.

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