Skipping holidays

Do what feels best for you, if that means not going. Then don’t. Sending you tons of love this season. I had a miscarriage on thanksgiving 2 years ago and it was traumatic, I wish I would’ve gone home.

I’m so sorry for your loss 💙 I can’t speak from experience, but can say I’ve noticed that many who haven’t gone through it can lack compassion/understanding. I try to avoid talking about anything baby-related in front of my aunt/uncle who experienced loss, and 100% understood they couldn’t handle attending my gender reveal/baby shower. My parents however don’t seem to understand and have been fairly annoyed by it. It’s hard to know what to expect from relatives when you’ve experienced loss, and that unpredictability alone can be stressful enough. Adding babies in the mix I imagine makes it all the harder. I completely believe holidays are for happy times and that means celebrating them in whatever way peace/happiness looks like for you. If you need to stay home this year/however long you need to, stay home and heal 💙 I hope your family is understanding of your choice to stay home and can show you support in other ways during this time!

I completely understand. We couldn't handle being around family, but especially with children of any age and just babies in general. Everyone was so excited for us at Thanksgiving, we just couldn't handle it after traumatically losing our twins and my almost dying. We already went through it for the 4th of July after a singleton miscarriage; neither of us was mentally prepared for another holiday after a devastating loss.