I’m thinking of putting my bd on child support but he’s been talking about taking me to court for full custody since i found out i was pregnant only because he asked me to get an abortion and i went to plan parenthood 2 different times and

I wouldn't worry. She lives with you, your on all of her documents, you're the one on doctor things, etc. It's easy to prove he's not very involved and it's in child's best interest to stay with mother. Just keep on the straight and narrow until custody is done so there's no rebuttal to use against you.

I'd absolutely pursue child support.

I'm sorry you've had to go through that. I would do a rough calculation for him of childcare costs (nursery ect) as well as food, clothing you spend on average, AND court/legal fees, and send that to him alongside the child support costs as a comparison and ask him why in god's name he'd want to spend all that money instead of just doing the right thing and paying what he should.

Having full custody of a child seems like it would be a lot more work and money than just paying child support! Also I don’t see how he would have any grounds for getting custody anyway. Hopefully he’s just saying this to scare you. Good luck!

No judge is going to give an absent father full custody unless for some reason, you couldn't look after the child. I really wouldn't worry, go get your child support, it's your child's right.

He might but if you can prove abandonment, aggressive behavior such as threatening texts, if he smokes weed you can say he abuse drugs and the court will order him to take a drug test. All of these are all reasons why the court would rule in your favor with proof of course. He also just might be saying that to stop you from putting him on child support. The court will always decide in the best interest of the child and it doesn’t sound like from what you described it would be him. Also if you have any proof texts, recording conversations of him saying he’s going to take you to court just so he doesn’t have to pay child support that’s all in your favor.

Doooo iiiiittttt

he doesn’t smoke nor do any of those things. I’m a lil scared because he never loses any court cases. And i’ve registered my son to start daycare next month that’s when i go back to work. so he also uses the daycare as a threat to get to me. saying he’s home and work for himself so the child will be better with him instead of daycare. i don’t smoke, drink, or use any drugs. i’ve a stable living place with 2bedrooms and i offer him the weekend to take the boy but he doesn’t want just the weekend, he wants to have him full time

Get full custody of a child isn’t easy as men make it seem. He has to prove you’re an unfit parent and the child isn’t in a safe environment plus all the legal fees he has to pay. I highly doubt he’ll follow through with it. File for child support and get the DNA test done! Let him cry about it later

I’m in a
Similar situation. My bd sent me money throughout my pregnancy to get to appointments but was never there physically. The day I gave birth he came to the hospital that same night for about 30-45 minutes holding and looking at our baby. Once he left that was the last time that he willingly put forth an effort to see her😔. She just turned 1. At first I had a fear of putting him on cs, thinking that maybe he would fight for full custody and win because he makes way more money than I do.However he told me too. I applied and he doesn’t show up for court. Refuse a DNA. Doesn’t give me any support anymore. Don’t see our child. Never been to a dr appointment. Don’t even know her dr.Just NOTHING. It sucks right now but I’m keeping record of all of this. There’s no way that he will ever be able to take my child away from me. I’m saying this to say this. You didn’t make the baby alone, && shouldn’t have to raise your baby alone.

Does he actually have money to take you to court? He wouldn’t get full custody unless he can prove you are unfit. He might be able to get 50/50 but he if hasn’t been in the child’s life he is going to have a hard time. Courts are usually better to the mothers when it comes to custody. I would get him to text you that he will go for full custody if you put him on child support so you can prove he only did it to get out of child support.

don’t the court enforce the support when the supposed to be dad doesn’t show up for dna?

Putting him on child support doesn’t give him any rights to full custody. Do what’s best for you and your child. Don’t allow fear or a
Anything else stop you. It’s a process. So just be prepared and patient. I’m so sorry you have to go through this.

they actually just did that in court in court on Monday. And they issued out a child abandonment warrant. Finally! I originally applied in may, it’s November

my bd has a leadership role in his township and i doubt he will want a warrant on him

exactly my thoughts. i didn’t want to be called the bitter bm, but he already started calling me that when i asked him to stop coming to appointments when i was 5 months pregnant due to the stress he was putting me through at every appointment. but now i don’t care anymore and i ask my lawyer , she told me not to worry about he taking me to court

Keep the messages where he asked you to get an abortion and keep any messages relating to it just incase!

that’s exactly what I was telling you. Don’t worry about what he try to do, his options will be limited. Just do what’s best for you and your child

Thank you ❤️

Yes because he will obligated to pay to be responsible. I mean they will cancel your license, passport and jail time so yea I did and would. The more he is in the system the less he could mess w you cause he will have some responsibility and be accountable for it.

Absolutely 😊‼️

Thanks everyone, i am definitely going to start the process tomorrow

Yeah courts see this all the time there’s no way he can get full custody but he may get more time and that will affect the child support you are getting.