Need some massive support. 27 years old and 5 weeks pregnant. Thought it was ready for kids, was so excited when I first saw the positive and as time has gone on I feel so much regret. I don’t know if I’m ready to say goodbye to the life I have been living. I haven’t even told my spouse I’m pregnant cause I’m so scared
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This is a completely normal feeling. It is a huge change. But if you can't ever see yourself being happy with this pregnancy or baby, just know you have options for a long time still

Totally normal mama ! Once you hear that heart beat for the first time , and see your first ultrasound your life will be changed forever. You won’t have your old life back completely when baby is born, but I am 27, had my son at 24 and life has been amazing ever since. And we still get nights / times to have our old life as well.

I felt this so much with my first, and a little bit less each time I have a baby--these feelings have resurfaced a lot for me, especially since I had my first at 19 and have a lot of emotional baggage that makes me feel like a horrid parent.
Part of that is I covet my free time. I was homeschooled and only took two or three classes at a time in high school, so I was saturated in it before I had kids. There is a part of your lifestyle that changes, but part of the parenting journey is learning how to be yourself as an individual and take time for yourself while you're parenting. It's taking me a long time to navigate myself again, but that was partially because I thought I was supposed to lose my identity to become a mom. You can't be the best mom you can be without still being a person, a partner, a creator, whatever you were before you had your baby.

I think this is normal I have days where I am so scared to be a mom and have to protect this little baby with everything I have plus not go out as often and not be able to up and go travel all the time then I have days that I’m like it’s a baby we can get a sitter and still do things and he can just come with me. I’m now 34 weeks and at times I still get scared but it was more scary in the beginning I’m sure people go back and forth there whole pregnancy it’s a huge change and it’s very scary your feelings are so so valid! I also have major anxiety so it’s normal for me to be terrified of things I can’t control and if you suffer from anxiety I’m positive it’s even more intense for us 😂😭

It's normal to feel this way, I was going through an emotional rollecoaster while pregnant too. It is hard and it does change your life forever. I struggled until recently because the first few weeks having him were exhausting.
My son is 11 weeks now and it's getting a bit easier every day. Besides he just started grabbing things and sitting unaided for about 1 minute at a time and it's amazing to see a little human growing

It is a big change. There will be ups and downs. You will miss the lifestyle you had. No more partying late, drinking, going on adventures. But tell yourself that a child grow up fast. 18 years will go by fast and you will still be young to go back to your way of living.
Motherhood is a big responsibility. It's above all a big adventure of love and you will learn so much, you will grow so much. Your baby is going to see ypu as the qeen you are. Omg, his or her little eyes lighting up when they see you. This is priceless. You can do it.