Today I’m an asshole
So my step sons bio mom keeps telling him that my oldest is not his sister an that she has a dad of her own. (My daughters dad hasn’t been in her life since she was 3 months old). I’ve tried to combat this for 2 years by explaining to SS that her bio dad is not a very nice man and that not all dads are as great as his. My daughter is 4 and cannot comprehend this so for now I’m sheltering her from it. As far as she knows my husband is her dad. Well now it’s becoming so much of a problem that he’s asking my daughter directly where her dad is and telling her that his dad isn’t hers and she has her own.
So today I decided it was enough. I had a roommate who is my best friend. We always used to joke and tell people that she was my daughters dad. So that’s precisely what I told SS today. He even met her on FaceTime and she went along with it . Is it 100% right ? No. But it’s best for my daughter until I can explain it to her properly. And now bio mom can explain to SS how that works and fingers crossed stop bringing up what isn’t her business. (Speaking to her directly isn’t an option she’s extremely HC if that wasn’t obvious)
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I don’t know how to word this without sounding rude. But I absolutely would not have led her on by telling her this guy was her father. At four years old she can get very attached even through one phone call. Just tell her the truth now. She may not fully understand but lying to her isn’t the solution.
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