My Peekaboo results were WRONG 😭 Now I have gender disappointment and I feel so bad
(Rant) Before the Peekaboo test, I felt so deeply that I was having a girl and I was very excited about that. I had a list of 40 baby girl names and 0 boy names. That's how confident I was that I was having a girl.
I imagined doing all the things with her that I wished my mom did with me.
I take the test at 7 weeks at a lab and what do you know... IT'S A BOY!
Even though I was a tad bit disappointed that my gut feeling was wrong, I immediately burst into tears knowing that I was having a baby boy.
My husband was thrilled and we named him
Carter immediately.
I spent weeks thinking about Carter. I was going to be a boy mom and fully embraced it.
My whole family knew Carter's name, and my husband and I talked about him all the time. He couldn't wait to have a son.
I loved opening my apps and seeing "How big is Baby Carter today?"
I take my NIPT 6 weeks later, not expecting anything unusual.
I was confident now that I was having my baby Carter.
I open my results in my email 1 week later and my heart sunk:
Gender: Consistent with Female
And just like that, baby Carter was “gone”.
I am very blessed and grateful, and I know that I didn’t actually lose anything, but for some reason the sadness of not having Carter, the baby boy I fell in love with, trumps any other feelings of excitement I'm supposed to have right now.
I know I love my baby and my husband does too.
But I deeply regret taking the Peekaboo test.
I just feel extremely guilty for not feeling connected to baby girl now, and I'm just in this confusing state.
I have to remind myself how excited and in love with my baby girl I was when I first found out I was pregnant and knew she was in there, and that pregnancy is a blessing in itself.
But gender disappointment is a real thing, and I hope these feelings go away soon so that I can fully enjoy this time.
Anyone else experience gender disappointment for one reason or another?
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I still think “Carter” could be really cute for a girl!!
Awww, you’re right 🥹 Maybe even Karter 💗
i had basically the same thing happen, except my Sneek Peak result was girl and after NIPT tests saying boy — to be honest i felt i had a wrong sneek peak and always had the gut feeling it was a boy. now i have a perfect 6w old lil boy Atlas. i know how hard it can be to start picturing how your lil one will be and who they will be, just to “lose” them. like i said i was lucky because i never truly believe the female result, even though it’s super uncommon to get a false female result, so it wasn’t too shocking getting the call from OB saying it was a boy. your feelings are completely valid, and no need to feel guilty or bad at all. i’m sure you and your baby girl will have a great relationship and you will be able to do all the things you originally pictured! this is also why (in case you have any pregnant friends or family) i try and steer EVERYONEEE away from any gender test that is not the NIPT test, because i know how it can feel and i was completely expecting it, but to be 1/2
2/2 completely blindsided by a whole new gender can obviously be shocking and offputting at the beginning. boy or girl, you will be a great momma! **also i took Peek a Boo test as well, not sneek peak (i get them confused sooo often lol)
This is why you want to use medical tests and not these peekaboo ones. I know people are always interested in gender. It’s seems people ask daily with sonograms that are way to early to tell. If the medical provided can’t confirm then you are just guessing.
I am sorry you are going through this and I am sure when you see your little one it will all go to the wayside.
Having working in NICU for over 15 years be happy your baby is healthy no matter the gender.
Thank you so much 💕 I’m glad to know that this phase will pass. And yes! I will warn new mamas not to try these types of tests as well! 😅
haha trust me I have thought about all of the possibilities! Like was it a vanishing twin? Is there another one in there? Did they accidentally swap my results with someone else?! 😅 I’m so glad you were able to get over it quickly. Thanks for sharing!
Yes, NEVER AGAIN. My friend did it with both of her pregnancies and they were correct, so I figured they were reliable… nope!
Very happy for a healthy baby 🙏
Thanks for sharing
I agree! Karter would make an adorable unique girl name☺️
oh no, not me crying because Karter was there all along 😭😭😭
I 100% understand how you feel. We thought we for sure were having a boy, we had a name for him already and we’re thinking of the sports he’d play, etc. then when we did a NIPT test we found out we were having a girl and I was devastated. I couldn’t wrap my head around why I felt so sad. Of course I’m grateful we are having a baby at all, and you feel this awful guilt for having gender disappointment. But 1 week later and we are so excited to have a little baby girl. The sadness will pass. Sending you hugs mama.
Yes! My gut feeling was a boy and had been for two months. I had a gender determination ultrasound yesterday. And it's a girl. I knew it was possible. But I'm a bit disappointed and feel like shit for feeling that way. I had it in my head. I would finally be a boy mom. I have a daughter already.
Aww I’m sorry you had to go through that. But I’m happy to know that it’ll pass. I’m already starting to feel better about it. Thanks for sharing 💕
Oh my goodness 😭😭 I even had my test done at a lab and by a woman, so idk HOW they got it wrong. Isn’t it a horrible feeling thinking you somehow let your husband down? That’s how I feel and I think it’s mainly why I’m so sad. I know he will love her, but he’s devastated not to have a son. Are you not having any more babies?
Aww man! Gender “disappointment” is such a weird feeling because we are actually happy af to be having our baby no matter what, but at the same time a part of us yearns for an unexplainable fulfillment we believe we will get with the opposite gender, knowing deep down that we will love this baby just the same.
My heart instantly lit up seeing baby Atlas 😭😍 He is absolutely perfect, and I love his name. Thank you so so much for those kind words. I needed that. 💕
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