in Mom's going through divorce/separation/ breakups

My short story of a narcissistic ex-husband.

The end of my marriage and 20 year relationship was triggered by his unfaithfulness, but supported by his actions as a neglectful father and as a selfish husband. For the past seven years of marriage, he has been solely focused on projecting an affluent image of himself, & revealing characteristics of narcissistic personality disorder. His failures extend beyond marriage and parenting, he has failed in nearly all his relationships- as a son, a brother, a friend and in business. He prioritized social events and seeking attention and consistently avoided responsibilities and being a team player at home. I’m working on becoming a better person as I too reflect on my own personal failures, however, I’m proud of giving my all to this marriage, but I no longer have the patience or willingness to babysit a man who does not want to be kept. I am ready to prioritize myself and my kids, and begin a new chapter with positivity, gratefulness, peace and good energy - all of which we have severely lacked in our home for the past 7 years. I am aware that it won’t be easy but thank god I have the best support system in the world! Sharing for anyone who can relate. I’m sure I’m not the only one discovering a severely narcissistic disorder only after having kids. It’s a love bomb then slowly pulling away but you don’t know it until you’re out of the “narcissistic fog” as they call it.

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Wow, I feel like I just read a post I wrote about my own marriage. Stay strong and take care of yourself so you can take care of your children. I am almost 2 years post separation and working on the divorce and it does get better with time.

Well done huni!! Very proud of you, I’ve done exactly the same, not married but with him 21 years and he wanted to be a loner in the relationship and family but expected me to do everything for him. His priorities were his work, car, football team, his son, his family then me, he was a Narc and an abuser and I’m so glad I am out of it! Here if you have any moments and feel low or want a vent xx

Good for you guys!!! More power to us!

@Charlene yup, I too did everything for him. Thank you appreciate it!!

Same!!!

So well said and beautifully written. Currently focused on self-kindness. I highly recommend the book “Good Morning, I Love You.” By dr Shauna Shapiro. Let me know if you want to chat!!

Currently going through the same thing I have two daughters and I'm currently pregnant except I've been having some issues so Idk if I may be miscarrying on top of that I am having to deal with the emotional and mental abuse from my narcissistic husband he has always been a serial cheater I have given him chance after chance after chance and trust me when people say after he does it once and he doesn't change he will never change... I've been married 5 years and besides having my kids these 5 Years have been misery for me , I always feel like I have to have my guard up around him , he will guilty trip me so bad only because he's cheating and he will hit me if he knows I find out about his cheating it's so sick... I have become so numb to the point when I found he was cheating again two days ago I wasn't even surprised I cry for a bit and than I was like wtf am I still doing with this guy.

I have filed for divorce and he knows it and still nothing has changed , he has always been the same person for these 5 years and it makes me sad for my daughters because I wish they could grow up in a two parent household but it's not worth it because what he does to me will affect them too and I will not allow him to show them that what he does is ever okay.

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