Gender scan...

I found out on Saturday that I'm having a BOY!!

I won't lie, both me and my partner had gotten into our head we were having a girl, so I was really upset initially. I just found letting go of the image I built in my head of my partner having a daughter so difficult 🥺 I had a bit of a cry and I reached out to a Facebook page I'm part of, and got a very uncompassionate response, which to be honest made me feel like a terrible person, especially given a lost a baby earlier this year, so I felt like well I should just be happy either way, what's wrong with me. Gender disappointment is such a real thing and everyone should be able to process that in their own way WITHOUT judgment.

HOWEVER, after a couple of days of saying 'he' 'my son' 'baby boy' my heart is SO FULL. I am absolutely extatic to be a boy momma and now the thought of me having wanted a girl feels so strange 😂 we've been nursery shopping, bought a few blue clothes and im so ready to see my partner to be a daddy to his little boy 🥺😍

Anyway, we haven't done our gender reveal party yet (this weekend, we couldn't wait that long to find out ourselves!!) So I wanted to share the news and be excited somewhere!!

I also hope this helps those who also experienced/are worried about gender disappointment as oh my gosh it is such a real thing, and you have every right to feel however you feel,bbut it absolutely goes away 🥰

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I had this in my first pregnancy, was convinced I was having a girl, all the old wives tales pointed towards girl then found out I was having a boy. It was a bit of a shock and I was disappointed as I always pictured having a girl first.
Like you after I'd processed it I got excited for a boy but the thought of a girl still crept in throughout my pregnancy every now and then. I knew it hopefully wasn't my last pregnancy so there was always next time.
When I gave birth and had my son I can say that I could not be happier, I had moments where I cried and felt so guilty that I ever wished him to be a girl because he's perfect as he is and I was always meant to have a son.
I'm now pregnant with no. 2 and after experiencing the gender disappointment last time and knowing the guilt I felt once he was born and how he was meant to be mine I'm excited either way. Just thought I'd also like to share my side and what it can be like after you've had your son❤️

thank you so much for sharing!! It's always really helpful to hear of people having a similar experience and it all feeling positive in the end. Especially helps with the loneliness!

Congratulations on your second pregnancy!! 🥰

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