Need to vent

Just went through our bank account to find out my husband has spent almost 2,000 dollars on x box in the last year. I want to rage on him. We do not have money to be wasting like that and I don’t know what to say to make him understand that. I have brought it up multiple times and he keeps doing it. I am not currently working since I just had our baby and I think he feels like he can do whatever he wants with the money since he’s the one with a paycheck. I’m at my breaking point I really don’t know what to do. I’m married to an immature child

Read more on Peanut

The views expressed in community are solely the opinions of participants, and do not reflect those of Peanut.

Learn more about our guidelines.

Add a comment

Girl thats why I dont put any man on my bank account. Yall should have separate accounts so its easier on both of yall.

I would take that money and buy a bunch of things for the baby! lol then he’ll have less to spend and he’ll get more of the picture! Jk jk thats being petty but I would definitely say get another account and just transfer the money so that he only has a certain amount to spend! I had to do that with my husband I would transfer money into my own account and just start a savings

There u go. I like what suggested. Give him a spendin limit.

Would suggest doing financial counselling together to address said issue. Depends also on whether you have an income at all or joint or seperate bank accounts but would definitely suggest sitting down together to discuss the issues you have and how to rectify them or at least put a plan in action moving forward

Honestly just split the bank account just get you a solo bank account that when you do get paid it goes into that bank account because if he's going to be irresponsible when you do get your job back you save your money in a different account so you can have emergency money

in our community

Ughhh

I am so overwhelmed!! My baby isn’t sleeping and I’ve got a raging headache and all this legal stuff is making me feel irritated and I just want to cry.
I absolutely hate the idea of letting him just cry while I take 5 seconds

I really hate to come out here and tell my business about what’s going on with my life in my kids, but I had no choice

I just came back from a parent teachers conference meeting and they telling me that my second daughter, who just turned eight about a week ago that she barely know how to read and she has speech problems… I already feel like shit because it’s not that I’m doing my job. It’s because I worked a lot, and and every time, me and my first oldest daughter, trying to teach you how to read, she gets insecure and thinking that we making fun of her, but we’re not!! I felt like a shitty mother I don’t know what to do.

First Day/Night Out without Baby

So I’m due to go on a hen party next weekend just for the afternoon/night and I’m soo nervous to leave baby girl. She will be with her dad (my husband) and I know he’s more than capable but I’m so nervous to leave her. He struggles sometimes with bed time as baby girl really likes to fight her sleep so I end up doing bedtime 9 times out of 10. And I’m worried he will just let her “cry it out” for a while before he goes to pick her up and settle her. I really want to go out and have a good time. But I’m just nervous about going out anyway in general because I’m still not 100% loving my new mum body. But mostly I’m nervous about leaving baby as it will be the longest we’ve been apart 🙈

Nursery

What's people's thoughts on nursery? Is it better to choose somewhere closer to where you live or better to choose somewhere in the middle for different people that may be picking baby up? We've just started looking and just don't know which is better

My mil is the reason I see my husband as less of a man

LA little back story, my mil got a new bf last year and a month into dating they insisted he be called grandpa. Fast forward to a few months ago mother-in-law and her boyfriend‘s behavior has turned nasty after father-in-law has come back into the picture. After mother-in-law and her boyfriend’s behavior at family events, such as my son’s baptism, my Christmas party and my father’s Christmas party, I told my husband to tell his mom that her boyfriend is no longer to be called Grandpa. fast-forward three months and he still hasn’t told her because he doesn’t want to upset her feelings. Now her bf wants to bring his son over to my house to meet my kids or his “grandkids” and they didn’t ask my opinion. I told my husband how I feel about it and he’s not telling her no because he doesn’t want to upset her. I’m starting to see my husband as less of a man because of his mom and putter her above me.

Am I over reacting? What should I do?

Correcting eating with hands?

My 1yo eats with utensils perfectly fine, my 3yo is capable of doing it too but doesn't like to and prefers to use her hands. I don't know how to correct this at home without it sounding lowkey like nonsense. We have finger foods, other cultures eat "messy" foods with their hands, we teach to eat until your tummy feels comfortable so idk how to explain that even tho eating with her hands is the most comfortable that she isn't supposed to?? Because even as an adult I don't see a problem with it unless it'd be disrespectful to the chef/host 😅 Do I just say we need to practice at home just in case a future chef/host would be offended by it? 😭