MIL rant - giving baby food

How old is baby

I wouldnt worry about allergy foods if yall don’t have people with allergies in the family. The food she made did she make it soft enough or is it full on like hard meat and potatoes and what not. I’m sorry she didn’t listen to you. Maybe go and tell her why she shouldn’t have hard foods just yet. But idk how old baby is but I would also start introducing actual finger foods. The earlier you start the less likely they are to choke when they need actual solids when they get older. Because they will have more practice to eat and gag and get the food out.

@Gabrielle 9 months

Gotcha. Maybe yall both get the app solid starts. You can start learning how to do safe foods for your child and but then if she watches your child she’ll know how to cook the foods as well.

I get the concern because ultimately what you want to do with your child is up to you and your partner alone sometimes out parents help push us when we are scared to make that next step with our kids. We started our daughter on purees around 3/4 months and then around 5/6 months we started introducing foods and never really had any problems. She’s had moments where she swallowed something wrong but she never eats unsupervised so it was never really a problem

@Luna yes, I know I need to bite the bullet and just start doing it.

Personally if that was me, they would not be looking after my child until further notice.. you gave specific instructions and they did not follow them! Its YOUR baby not theirs. Yes its scary giving you baby food for the first time, but they have no right to undermine you and do it off their own back.

I’d be leaving the party and going to get my child! It’s not her business to give your baby anything you’ve told her not to!!! Why the fuck do parents and in-laws think they know best?! If u can’t go get her I’d be sending a really straight to the point response so she knows how pissed off you are!! I don’t get why they do this thinking they’re better parents than actual parents! Or they know best because they had kids a million years ago!! Arseholes

9months is more than old enough to be off purées, I understand why you’re annoyed but she’s not at risk from a meal at 9mo.

I get why you’re annoyed, the fact she could be having other stuff is not the point. You’ve provided her with a dinner and you haven’t given her permission to give your daughter anything else. If she really wanted to see if she would eat some potatoes or veg or meat she should have messaged saying can I try this give her this, I can mash it up if you would prefer? I wouldn’t be letting them have her again unless they respect the way you do things.

Everyone that is focusing on the baby’s age and ability to eat solids is missing the point!!! The parent is the ultimate decider of when and what baby eats!! Others must respect that. Also…food before one is just for fun. Additionally, starch is actually pretty intense for babies digestive system before 15 months. Although it’s still okay to feed baby starch, it is totally reasonable if mom doesn’t want that. ESPECIALLY, if she hasn’t introduced it prior. Respecting mothers feeding habits for baby is the principle that you all are missing

I would be very upset regardless of what is considered age appropriate or safe. They didn’t respect your directions for the evening while you trusted them with your child! And then they sent you photos! Clearly they don’t even register the fact that they ignored your wishes. Might be time for a chat about boundaries because I doubt they think they’re in the wrong and things like this will continue.