Postpartum sex

So next week they will clear me to resume normal activities. They asked if I wanted birth control or will use condoms. We’ve decided on condoms… what else is everyone doing? I would literally decompose if I got pregnant so soon lol.

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We're doing condoms as well. Don't want to do birth control and mess up my hormones or breastmilk supply.

agreed!!

I did condoms after my first...lol then my second came along. Now I have a 2 week old and a 20 month old, so this time I'm getting an iud. They also have birth control without hormones in them. But condoms and birth control for me

I’m gonna give nexplanon a try! I had it once before and it worked for me.. hopefully it works this time!

It took us 5 years of trying and 6 months of fertility treatment to get pregnant for the first time... I'll be throwing caution to the wind 😆

awwww congrats mama!!!

@Amanda feel you on that. It took us 4.5 years to conceive. Only thing stopping me is I would love to give baby girl at least a year of her own.

it took me 3 years my first time & 1 with fertility meds.. my second time it happened in the 1st time of naturally trying 😅 not risking it

I will do condoms also! Can't imagine getting preggie now!

@Alexis is nexplanon a birth control Or for fertility

Condoms until my husband's vasectomy next month! 4 kids always sounded good but I'm happy with 3!

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Circumcision, please help

I know it can be a really sensitive topic, but I feel really underinformed about whether I should choose to circumcise or not if we end up having a boy.
For context: we are very non-religious, but I worry about the stigma of being non-circumcised when he would start to get interested in dating, navigating cleaning it and the risk of infection especially as he gets older and navigating potty training at daycare and stuff. I also worry about the increased risk of penile cancer. But then I also hate the thought of making my baby go through a major surgery unnecessarily and would prefer for them to make the choice when they are older if they choose to get circumcised.

How did you make your choice? Does anyone regret their choice?

How do I end this friendship

My best friend of 15 years and I are in similar stages of life and her behaviour has gotten increasingly erratic and triggering. I am about to have my first baby and she is struggling with postpartum from her second who was born last August. All the “normal” post partum depression symptoms I totally understand but she has also in my opinion made a lot of selfish choices recently.

She is constantly yelling and berating her husband and kids as well as flying off the handle at the tiniest things and it’s super triggering for me coming from a previous abusive relationship. She’s honestly being abusive to her family.

I feel like she always makes everything about herself and her reasoning has gotten soooo misconstrued. She acts only on her emotions and doesn’t care about anyone else’s. She never accepts any constructive criticism or advice even though she complains 24/7 about everything.

She says she hates being a mom and doesn’t want to be around her kids , hates her marriage, hates her job, and complains 24\7 and refuses to do anything to change. She also makes everything about herself including my baby shower we just had. She’s made rude comments to my spouse as well.

I don’t have many mom friends but at this point she is just not the type of person I want to be around because she is being so mean and wanting to bring everyone down with her. Also I am about to have my first baby and just want to focus on me.

no screen mums!!

are you absolutely 0 screens household? my boy is 6mo and me and my partner agreed no screens till 3yo, but I'm a sahm and showering is HARD when I'm alone, I've been thinking about recording myself singing the songs he likes and showing it to him for being able to shower.
What do you do?

Wake windows and entertaining

How are you keeping your 5 months old entertained.. and how long are their wake windows now?

Feeling guilty for co sleeping

My 6 month old has suddenly started to do abit of co sleeping in the night. She sometimes go back to her bed but alot of the time it’s out of pure exhaustion from me that I just let her sleep with me. I haven’t got any energy to be rocking her back to sleep and putting her down with possibly failing the attempt. But for some reason I feel a sense of guilt like I’m going to have problems later on if it continues. Someone put my mind at ease please?

Birthday postpartum

I’m due to give birth to our second child weeks before my birthday. My partner wants to know what I want to do but I don’t know what would be possible so soon. I already get things like facials and my hair and nails done and it’s been made clear none of those qualify as a present for my birthday 😅 I don’t know what more I could possibly do 😅 there’s no way I’m going to want to go on a day out 😂