Ladies ladies ladies

*After he said “it’s not that big of a deal” I replied “ maybe not to you but to me it is” and then i walked away and returned to tell him we should not go forward with being in a relationship because I can’t trust him - but now I’m second guessing - did I do too much and invade his privacy?

What the hell?? That’s fucked up he’s just gaslighting you by saying you’re overthinking this and it’s not a big deal. It is a big thing! You’re not a fool

He sounds TOXIC as hell, flipping it over, saying it's not that big of a deal. If that is what turns him on, there is a problem. He is having inappropriate conversations with a woman. He is the one who made the decision to break up your family. You just caught onto it now. He should not be entertaining any ideas about anyone else if he truly loved you and was going to be faithful. Don't dismiss this as hormones. This is real.

I’m legit about to pass out… I feel like I’ll have an anxiety attack if I talk to him. I really put my all into building this family and holding it down ever since he lost his job. I feel like this is the ultimate level of disrespect and what sucks is that in his mind since he said “I’m sorry” there’s no reason to keep talking about it because it “redundant”

he can be but he can also be so loving which makes it that much more confusing

that’s what I was thinking too but I’m just feeling so hurt I don’t know if I can think rationally

Girl run 🏃🏻‍♀️💨 there’s no need for this type of negativity with your baby! Put yourself first! This is so inappropriate and unacceptable, how would he like it if you were talking to someone else with the same comments! Just know your child is learning your relationship and it can affect them long term. If I were you I would leave

Well, hopefully his friend can take him in after you put him out. Firstly, he's a bum, but has the sheer audacity to try to cheat on top of that. Just ew, discard him.

It sounds like your man has narcissistic tendencies. Love bombing, gaslighting, dismissing, etc. If this is the case, run far and fast.

He a bum. I'd leave. He's complacent as hell letting you pay for everything.

P.S I hope yall wasn't smoking in the house with the lil one 😬

That’s your choice to make. Are you willing to let go? If your answer is no, having a deep conversation and stating your terms clearly (opportunity to include the no job part) will give you all the answers you need. Above all be happy 😊

The relationship Doesn’t seem healthy for you or baby. Leave. Otherwise you show ur little one that’s the type of relationship you’d be okay with them being in when they get older… babies and kids minds are a sponge and they absorb their environment. If both parties are not willing to change (mostly ur man tho lol) there is no sense in staying mama. I’m so sorry baby girl. You deserve better. That is not right…. A.) he should be working to provide for y’all as a man and gentlemen and B.) he should not be speaking with ANYBODY BESIDES HIS PARTNER about what turns him on. Hang in there, everything will end up alright and I know you’ll make the right decision.

thank you I really do appreciate this!