Help with Behavior!

So I’ve worked in childcare my whole life, I’m also a high school teacher. I have a degree in behavior management and education but, oh boy, this one is a stumper. Just when I thought I could handle any behavior - LOL. I guess when they say your child is going to be twice as bad as you were..I think they were right!

So my child turns 1 at the end of this month. She started doing this screaming/yelling thing. Every behavior serves a function, so I figured she was communicating a need or frustration. I try everything (toys baba distractions redirection) but she still does it. So then I thought she must be doing it for attention, so if I give her that attention, it will only enable the behavior. So my husband and I started to ignore it. It continued. Then we tried a 3 step approach (1st: ignoring it 2nd: if it continues, calmly say shhh and sing a whisper song or inside voice song with her. 3rd:: if it continues, we get firm with her and say no. She then proceeds to laugh in my face (mind you my face looks very serious and I’m not cracking a smile whatsoever when I’m firm with her)…she thinks it’s funny!!!

I am at a point where I feel helpless. When we go out, she does it in public and it’s so embarrassing bc I can tell ppl are annoyed. The weird thing is this is very new and she has always been so calm and hardly even cried as a baby so I don’t know where this is coming from but it’s driving me crazy lol.

Any and all suggestions are welcome. Thank you so much 🙏🏼.

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Mine (10 months) went through a screaming phase for a couple months, stopped for a while then did it again for about 2 months and just stopped again.

I think it’s just something that entertains her, she realizes she can scream. She likes doing it and hearing herself. I just let her. She doesn’t fully understand what “no” means. At at least why I’m saying no.

It will stop eventually.
You shouldn’t feel embarrassed. She’s a baby. If people are annoyed they can fuck off. She’s a baby lol. They don’t wanna hear outside noise from other people they can stay inside.

The laugh means she thinks the screaming is funny. We have some times of yelling/screaming here and it's just her way of using her voice and making sure we know 😅

I agree that it's probably just the screamy pterodactyl phase and will pass. But if it continues it could be a way to express frustration, and the way we dealt with that was teaching my son some signs like eat, drink, milk, hurt, help, potty, etc. It helped soooo much and we didn't have to deal with any screaming or tantrums thru the early toddler stage. We are doing it again with my daughter. 10 months is just about when my son started signing back, so it's the perfect time to introduce them.

I'll be honest they won't really learn volume control for a while. It's like impulse control. If they're going to be loud they'll just do it 🤷

all you can do is model the behavior you want and she will eventually get it. You can respond to her shrieks with a really quiet voice so she has to be quiet in order to hear you..but I would just not react to it with any more than calm correction. My son's didn't last very long, but I can imagine it would be mortifying if he really hung onto it 😳

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Am I wrong for getting upset?

Long story short. My cousin made a group chat for bridesmaids and groomsman to plan out bachelorette party.
I sent one text about finding a sitter and my cousin texts me to stop saying stuff like that cause no one gives a shit? As if no one else is gonna mention their personal lives during planning a trip of 10 people?
I. Put the screenshots. I got so hurt I told her just count me out if the mention of my kid offends everyone.

Having a bit of a sad day

I don’t know if I want advice or just to get it out a bit.
I had a bit of a rubbish Mother’s Day, and then today had a falling out with my mum.
Very long story short, me and my partner turn 30 this year and were thinking of taking a short trip (2-3 days max) just the two of us to celebrate. Our son will be 2 by then.
We had discussed leaving our son with our parents and them sort of splitting having him (eg. My mum has him one night and my boyfriend’s mum has him the other two nights, or whatever we collectively decide on). They are both happy to do this.

Yesterday my MIL was pushing my son’s pram and got distracted and pushed it off the pavement into the road, a car missed the pram by about 5 seconds. This upset me a lot.

Me and my partner discussed this later on and I said it worries me leaving our son with her in case she does something like that. We also discussed the fact that my mum pays very little attention to our son when she’s with him and is absolutely glued to her phone (looking at social media etc) so we might just take him on holiday with us.

Then this morning I had a chat with my mum and told her we would probably just take our son away with us. She asked why and I mentioned the pram thing with my MIL so she said she would just have him- so I thought it was time to mention that when she’s with him she is glued to her phone and gets distracted and that it just worries me a bit. (For reference she’s been watching him before and because she’s been on her phone he’s managed to get half way up her stairs.)
She absolutely lost it at me. Called me rude etc.

I try so hard not to upset anyone and I’m just so so fed up now. I just wish it was simple and we could trust them to take care of him but they are both away with the fairies.

I want to talk to my mum but i don’t know how to approach it now. Just feel like i need a big cry.

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I am so overwhelmed!! My baby isn’t sleeping and I’ve got a raging headache and all this legal stuff is making me feel irritated and I just want to cry.
I absolutely hate the idea of letting him just cry while I take 5 seconds