Letting a baby cry….

Please don’t take this advice 😢 it’s actually been proven it’s damaging to babies brains to leave them to cry, they won’t learn to self soothe this way, they will jut eventually stop crying because they learn that no one is coming. Contact naps and comforting them is more than okay, it helps the bond.

There are only this little for such a sort amount of time too and one day they may not want this many cuddle ect, for me it’s teaching them him mummy will always be there whenever he needs me and can come to me anytime no matter what. Xx

thanks! She meant well but she mentioned I might give her separation anxiety by always being there. I suddntly felt like I was doing something wrong - so this is reassuring!

She is such a happy baby, she just loves feeling close and being held a lot in the daytime & contact naps, but has worked for us so far. Exactly I want her to know she can come to me for comfort. Parenting is so confusing because everyone tells you different things & you constantly want to do everything the right way 😭 x

Babies will get separation anxiety any way hun!

I defo get what you mean! Just go with your gut and what feels right to you. My Nan kept trying to tell me that I my son should be upstairs on his own in his cot for naps and that I shouldn’t pick him up right away when he wakes, safe to say I ignored her. Older people need to remember that times have changed and Will constantly be changing. X

Totally agree with chrissy. We are naturally designed to keep our babies close at all times, as they're so helpless compared to other mammals. You won't damage her, you'll actually create a very healthy attachment which is what children need to feel safe and develop well mentally.

Keep cuddling that bub ❤️

I was told if fed and cleaned and your putting them down to sleep at night let them cry for around 3 minutes then do a check and cuddle, repeat adding a minute each time as long as you know needs have been met doing it this way helped get into a proper sleep routine, it was really hard at first but within a week we had a great sleep routine, but I completely get all babies are different what works for one won’t necessarily for others, it’s you baby don’t let anyone tell you what to do

I never let my kids cry it out......there was always a reason. And I was right. Both my kids are now 11 and 15, no issues no attachment issues either. You won't damage her at all. At the end of the day she is your baby, do what you feel is necessary xx

My MIL keeps saying I'm spoiling my LO by picking her up when she cries or holding her to sleep. She's even said that LO shouldn't be putting hands or toys in her mouth. She was promptly told where to go with her so called advice. X