Not eating evening tea

After some advice, my 22-month-old has all of a sudden decided he's not going to eat his dinner at night, and I am really starting to lose my patience as food is being wasted. I let him help me in the kitchen so he can see what's going on. It's only started in the last week or so.

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Hey we are the exact same here too. He eats his breakfast and lunch great at the dinner table with me. Dinner he sits and the table has one or two mouthfuls and then says all done. If he was hungry he would eat I’m guessing. Hopefully it’s just a wee thase for them and grow out of it. X

I usually make my sons breakfast and/or lunches the big meal and dinner the optional meal. I see it as hes on a different schedule than me and maybe hes not hungry then. He likes cereal before bed. Which id like to stop but im not too fussed 🤷‍♀️ id say just stop cooking as much at dinner for him or make that his lunch the next day.

Thank you for these messages. He used to really enjoy his tea "/ lunch he never seems fussed on and is quite happy to take it or leave it. If he hasn't eaten his tea, he then asks for porridge about an hour after. X

My little boy went through a phase of this for about a month 😳
We still served him his dinner ( although like you hate the waste and my patience was tested to the max)
We just gave him some toast and a yoghurt before bed, until he started to become more interested.
The other thing I tried as he was interested in mine, was ketchup, I know it’s not for everyone but he would dip his food and then eat it 🙄
Slowly now weaning him off of it, but I feel like it helped 🙂

@Kate oh gosh a month 🙈🙈 yeah if he asks for porridge I give it him because I worry about him being hungry. He likes ketchup but unfortunately he tends to lick it of the food he dips in it 🙈

I know!!! And his sleep was terrible at the same time, looking back we now think it must of been his teeth and maybe texture of the food, but who knows 😂
Oh dipping the ketchup and licking it off is a good one, cheeky sausage 🥰

@Kate I keep wondering if its his teeth,he's been really slow in the teeth department..I can't see or feel anything but saying that they push then go back in.
Oh I know he's not stupid 😂he eats gravy like it's yoghurt 🙈x

I could have written this myself. Even food that he used to demolish he now refuses. I think it’s a control thing like they’re testing us. That’s what my aunty said she’s a HV. She said it’s normal at this age.
I think it’s his teeth as well he’s really suffered with them all coming through and he’s been so grumpy the last 2 weeks poor thing. I don’t have any suggestions but was going to try porridge before bed see if that works as he wolfs it down at breakfast.

@Isabelle hey, that's really helpful thank you. I'll give it a try. Literally anything to minimise stress c

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Hidden veg mince pasty 🥐

Grated courgette and carrot mixed in with onion and mince and a little bit of tomato puree. 😋

My daughter has become a little fussy and prefers anything she can hold so made these today for lunch! She’s 14 months old 🩷

Am I wrong for getting upset?

Long story short. My cousin made a group chat for bridesmaids and groomsman to plan out bachelorette party.
I sent one text about finding a sitter and my cousin texts me to stop saying stuff like that cause no one gives a shit? As if no one else is gonna mention their personal lives during planning a trip of 10 people?
I. Put the screenshots. I got so hurt I told her just count me out if the mention of my kid offends everyone.

Appropriate age to go out

I am the kind of person who struggles with being at home all day, not good for my mental health. I have a 1 month old and I am trying to start doing things with her. Like going ti the park, running errands. But people seem surprised and kind of judgy that I am out with the baby at her age. Is this wrong?

Having a bit of a sad day

I don’t know if I want advice or just to get it out a bit.
I had a bit of a rubbish Mother’s Day, and then today had a falling out with my mum.
Very long story short, me and my partner turn 30 this year and were thinking of taking a short trip (2-3 days max) just the two of us to celebrate. Our son will be 2 by then.
We had discussed leaving our son with our parents and them sort of splitting having him (eg. My mum has him one night and my boyfriend’s mum has him the other two nights, or whatever we collectively decide on). They are both happy to do this.

Yesterday my MIL was pushing my son’s pram and got distracted and pushed it off the pavement into the road, a car missed the pram by about 5 seconds. This upset me a lot.

Me and my partner discussed this later on and I said it worries me leaving our son with her in case she does something like that. We also discussed the fact that my mum pays very little attention to our son when she’s with him and is absolutely glued to her phone (looking at social media etc) so we might just take him on holiday with us.

Then this morning I had a chat with my mum and told her we would probably just take our son away with us. She asked why and I mentioned the pram thing with my MIL so she said she would just have him- so I thought it was time to mention that when she’s with him she is glued to her phone and gets distracted and that it just worries me a bit. (For reference she’s been watching him before and because she’s been on her phone he’s managed to get half way up her stairs.)
She absolutely lost it at me. Called me rude etc.

I try so hard not to upset anyone and I’m just so so fed up now. I just wish it was simple and we could trust them to take care of him but they are both away with the fairies.

I want to talk to my mum but i don’t know how to approach it now. Just feel like i need a big cry.

Roles between a sthm and a working partner?

I started wondering if our arrangement makes any sense. When I was pregnant I saw a cute video of a couple where they sleep seperately, the mom takes care of the baby during the night, the husband wakes up early in the morning takes over so the woman sleeps a bit before he gets to work I suggest this arrangement to my husband and we both liked it. Since I gave birth to my 22 month old boy, we are sleeping separately, I’m taking care of everything. My toddler still wakes up during the night every two hours on average. I wake up in the morning to make his breakfast and drive him to the train station and pick him up later in the day. I clean and cook and take care of my boy, with no appreciation or thank you. If I say I’m tired it turns he’d say what are you doing all day or he’d remind me of how he’s paying for everything. I am emotionally and physically exhausted and I don’t feel this is how a team should work.

Water

My LO is 10 months old and I try and offer him water with meals but he will only take a couple of sips. I’ve tried adding freshly made apple juice to sweeten it a bit, in case this would entice him, but he still refused. I think if it’s not milk, he doesn’t want it, or it’s odd to him.

Any tips?