Men saying women are selfish

He is giving you his boundary, and it is not selfish in my opinion. It sounds like he is not okay with opening the relationship and gave that condition as a way to keep you from doing it. I think he should have communicated it but it’s normal to not want an open relationship, bisexual or not

he’s opened saying he not ok with it but allowing it so I can have my fun and not tie me down but wants to be apart

If he’s not okay with it, you should respect that and not do it. It sounds like he doesn’t want to but is afraid you’ll be unfaithful if he doesn’t agree

he confuses me and contradicts says it’s OK if he’s involved but then also says he doesn’t want to do it because he doesn’t think it’s a good idea but part of me feels like why he doesn’t think it’s a good idea. Is it on his part or is it because of self-esteem or is it because of jealousy? I think it’s a lot of things. I feel like he wants me to have my fun but is also nervous of the possible outcome because he’s allowed me and so far it’s been OK. We already discussed boundaries, but he feels like this is a phase I’m just going through and we will soon pass it and once I get older I’ll just get over it. But I also feel like he’s afraid I will like women more or find somebody I really like and he will feel like he’s not the only one anymore.

His concerns are valid, it’s clear that he doesn’t want to open the relationship. You married him so that’s enough of a reason to not think it’s a good idea- you already have a partner to be intimate with and unless he’s enthusiastically agreeing, it’s not appropriate to push his boundaries.

he know I had sex with women twice before him when single . But I told him after I got prego had fantasies and what should I do about it but I feel like if it’s an urge and he’s OK with it I should let it out when needed and I also told him “ you don’t think I would want to do it again, especially dealing with it in my past twice with my consent” . He thought it was something I just tried out and I’m over with it but I still want to continue and try and he didn’t expect me to have to include a third person, but generally I was just thinking about a female who’s just open around me or can talk about sex girl things and if things happen he would not get upset and be OK with it I’m not looking to do somebody all the time I’m just looking for an OK if I find a friend who’s bisexual and makes a move
So I ended up finding out that he’s OK with me flirting with girls, but when it comes to sex, he wants to be there in person But I feel he contradicts himself a lot,

we’ve even had sec prior in the relationship with others in the room same roof but everything was private so it’s not like it’s anything new it’s just been years since we double dated or had some “fun” so I wanted that 1 friend to spice it up sometimes

yes that’s what I’ve explained . I told him I need time with her and we need multiple sessions until we are 100% comfortable . But we’ve done small stuff with everyone in the room involved but once he hears I did something alone with a girl he’s like u can’t do that unless I’m around I’m like it shouldn’t have to be all the time cuz I’m still tryna know the girl + it’s barely even a month of knowing her it’s just the first couple meets. I do things to make him more comfortable by pleasing the girls and not letting them make me cum so I don’t like them touch my pussy so he doesn’t get jealous another girl made me cum .

I found a friend and she wanted to eat me out and he told her she could but not to make me cum and she got mad and said how u want me to eat her out and not make her cum if she cums she cums . That’s why I say tease not please because if I find a girl to please me it will be a problem for him unless he’s there

if anything to prevent jealousy alone with the girl I’d rather please her and when he’s there the girl focuses on me along with my husband . He knew I had sex with girls twice before him. But he didn’t think I’d wanna continue cuz I never brought it up. But I told him I did like it so got it done twice . My husband even watched a girl taste my pussy and he liked it . Sometimes I feel he contradicts himself because he doesn’t wanna mess up and make it a mixy. Hes experienced more than me esp in life and I wanna have fun still but respectfully and with him on certain things

I told him he should be honored. I’m willing to be open to do this with him because I have not done this with no other guy. I’ve tried this with an ex, but it failed so I feel totally comfortable to make this next step with him just to add a little fun. And this time around I’m making the right approach about how I’m going to find the person I put in more thought into it. About boundaries and what I expect.

I’ve heard sex with women is the best and that’s what they fear . He doesn’t want me to be pleased by anyone else and if I do he finds it selfish which is fine that’s why I’d want to be teased by the female not pleased idk I’m tryna find a way where I can still do what I want but he calls it I’m having my cake + eat it too. Says I’m just fantasizing and it’s not good to fantasize and put it into reality because 70% of the end failing

I told him if he was gay I wouldn’t want the new dick I’d let him have it and sometimes they can do whatever as long as he puts me first spends more time with me then him and when he is around ur acting normal around me and not hiding to do stuff like sex or whenever and if I wanna watch or joint to please my husband as well I would

I have my fears told him I should be more worried than him . lol. Men and women get eachother pregnant women and women can’t . Women and men can sneak around having sex behind wife back . Unicorn can see his dick and get horny turned on now want some too lol

he says stuff like “I hope u don’t end up liking girls” like what do u mean why does it matter. If I did or didn’t expect him to support regardless respectfully . Esp if I like girls don’t ask for threesomes me checking girls out none of that cuz some men are like that because they want another pussy to fuck