Selfish

Think it depends on who they are from and if you are seeing them after Xmas. I could understand your mil wanting to see your sons face when he opens the present.

we completely understand that and even said that too her. We told her she’s more than welcome to come Christmas morning or after Christmas if that suited better but because the only day she wanted to do was today- we’re selfish for not letting him have them today😂 x

Oml. Your kids your rules! We got one present sometime before normally Christmas Eve but we begged for it.

Yeah your not selfish at all!!! make your traditions for your family as you like! Like for me we wont be going out anywhere Christmas day like 7 pm Christmas eve i want to be home and wont be leaving till the 26th and if anyone wants to do stuff we can plan for before or after that or they get over it thats our tradition and its time for you to make your own family traditions blending with your guy

I mean it’s her present she’s giving to him why can’t she decide when he can have it? Idk just seems like a petty “rule”

That's what we've decided too & in a similar vein - it's my child I'll decide weather we choose to include Santa in our traditions (with husbands opinion o'course)
If they want to see opening of their gifts they can do it after Christmas no prob

I get it’s her present and that’s why I completely understand her wanting to watch him open it but we’ve told him that all the presents get sent off to Santa to be delivered Christmas morning- how would we explain that a few came 3 days before Christmas but not the rest🤣 he’ll then wonder why ‘Santa’ didn’t get him the things he’s been asking for 😩 when actually he has, just for actual Christmas Day 😂 we’re trying to build the magic of Christmas with him. She doesn’t celebrate Christmas, she stopped years ago so she could just wait until after ‘Santa’ has dropped off his presents.

So just out of curiosity what will you tell him when she gives him the gift after Santa comes? Like wouldn’t he still wonder why Santa brought presents late? Unless you plan to tell him it’s from her which then he could have the present now and it still be from her. Idk like I said it just seems a bit petty but to each their own.

it’s definitely easier to say Santa dropped some at her house by mistake than to explain why he came early🙈 idk i completely understand and respect everyone does Christmas different! I just wish she’d respect our decisions as his parents rather than calling us selfish🙄 this isn’t the first time she’s disagreed with our parenting choices and it just gets to me now. There’s lots of things she does which I don’t agree with but I don’t say anything because it’s not my business. Think it but there’s no need to say it🙈 x

You’re not selfish. Also just bc she bought his CHRISTMAS present doesn’t mean she can decide that he can open it before just bc she bought it.