Shouted at baby and now I feel like an awful mum

Hi, I am really looking for support and no judging please.

Since my little one was born sleeping has just been the hardest and difficult thing,. We just got help with the sleep and finally in a much better routine.

My partner took her out this morning and she missed her morning nap and let her sleep for 5 minutes in the buggy on the way home. It was her big lunch time nap time. I just spent 1 hour and 45 minutes trying to get her back to sleep.

I got so stressed I tried stepping outside and cooling down but ended up shouting at her. I left the room to cool down and then picked her up and hugged her. But I feel so so so awful like I'm a terrible mum. I don't want to lose my cool like that ever. It was my partners fault and not hers, but I could see how tired she was and she was just refusing to sleep.

I just feel so bad and awful. Please can someone tell me if they have ever done the same and feel like this. 🥺🥺🥺

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Moms need breaks and like a weekend with grandma or someone trusted because I’m like that too. Had to learn to if we don’t get a real break from these kids we get a little cranky and it can go from 3 to 10 real quick

Mothers/parents lose patience but it's important what you do afterward. Apologize and explain why you had an outburst. If you don't understand then tell them you don't understand why. This is important to practice and get down even if your child isn't talking yet. Set an example for what happens when people lose their patience ❤ everything will be okay

@Brittany thank you

@Celina thank you!

Your so welcome we will overwhelm ourselves to be everything for our kids but we need a chance to recharge and be everything for ourselves too. You need that moment whether it’s a date night or just a spa day and don’t worry about what’s changed just know you got your break and your ready 🥰

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