2nd baby doubts

Did anybody have a 2nd baby that had huge doubts/considering being one and done.
My gut is telling me to stick with one but I keep changing my mind to have another so my baby has a sibling.
I just can't imagine loving another baby like I do my first.
I'm scared of deciding to go ahead and regretting it and hating my 2nd baby because my whole time isn't either my first or my first not liking 2nd baby.
It's making me feel so stressed and confused 😪

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It’s extremely normal to have those feelings. What would it mean for you to have a second baby? What would it mean for you to not have a second baby? Believe me, as someone who has felt the same way of having trouble imagining loving another as much as my first child, it just happens. Your heart grows and you are able to love them both as hard as it is to believe beforehand. The adjustment of sharing time is a hard one but your first child can be a part of the process of helping you take care of your second. Also let’s face it, siblings will fight. It doesn’t mean they will hate each other at their core. I hope this helps. If you need to talk more, please feel free to reach out. ā¤ļø

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I’m going through this right now. There’s days I want another one so bad but then there’s day that I’m goood with my little girl. Only because I’ve gone through a miscarriage and a still birth before my baby that I have now. My pregnancy went really well with her there were no issues at all. To be honest I didn’t feel pregnant for how well it went. But I was so stressed everyday because I had those experiences before I put that stress on this pregnancy. 9 months wasssssss long and that’s what I don’t know if I can go through again. If it was that easy for another baby just to be born tmrw hahaha I would do it. Butttt than I see her and say I don’t want her to be without a sibling and to play alone and to go through life without one. So I feel you I’m VERY stressed and confused.

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