Baby daddy distant
He never wants to go anywhere with me anymore, or do anything beside sit home and play games with me on Xbox. But I want him to take me on a date- I don’t remember the last time we went and sat out for dinner. He will get McDonald’s with me but then rush me to eat to get home, he doesn’t want to take me out for dinner to somewhere simple like a cafe or small restaraunt or anywhere.. he doesn’t buy me small gifts and surprise me anymore- and he doesn’t want sex anymore unless it’s oral. He’s just totally lost interest in me and it’s so obvious- he treats me like utter dirt sometimes too. What can I do- I don’t want to leave 💔
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I’d say give him the same distance he’s giving you. You can’t make him treat you better especially if you’re accepting the treatment he’s giving you now. Which by staying is accepting. What one man won’t another will. I know you don’t WANT to leave but it may be the best for you to leave in the situation where he’s clearly showing you how he feels about you.
every time I’ve tried to leave he has unpacked my stuff when I try to leave the house and told me I’m being hormonal.
Does he work? I’d say pack your stuff and leave while he’s at work so he can’t stop you. You’re not being hormonal he’s manipulating you into staying because he doesn’t want to be alone and he’s comfortable with you being there and not having to put in the effort
@Melissa Dawson I agree you should leave but me personally I would get all dressed up make hair nails and feet go out without him but let him see you dressed up have someone to watch the kiddos. Ignore his expression and stop giving him oral unless he's going to pleasure you. You are a woman you are strong with or without a man. You deserve better for not only yourself but for your babies. He's showing you he's messing around with someone and he's taking control. He want oral tell him he's going to have to give some oral and work for it
Pack up your stuff when he is not around
You're single in a relationship.
How can you say all of this and then at the end say you don't want to leave? This is the type of treatment you want to allow?
I love him and it hurts. I have nobody else. He was with me at my father’s funeral less than two months ago. He’s all I have now
Incognito, I get it. It sounds more like a trauma bond / codependency. I pray you get the strength to leave.
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