Bitter horrible post!
Hey everyone, I apologies in advance for how horrible I sound but just need somewhere to rant!
So my daughters dad who has been a total idiot since halfway through my pregnancy and has put me in many a horrible position financially, mentally etc contributed to my PPD, barely been there for my daughter and has put me through hell has just passed his driving test. He has paid me £50 towards all her Xmas presents and maintenance for the whole of the month, showed up hungover to Boxing Day after refusing to see her Xmas and brought second hand gifts despite being a full time worker and no other financial commitments and spent the few hours with her sleeping on my mums couch with baby screaming telling her to be quiet. Meanwhile I’ve got her daily and can barely leave her with him as he ends up doing stupid stuff with her like feeding her jelly tots and leaving her with random friends etc, I’m trying to update my nursing do online training work nightshift you name it and he just always comes up smelling of roses it’s literally so unfair.
As I said I’m so sorry for how horrific I sound I usually try to stay positive but I could scream with how unfair this world is sometimes!
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On that note how do I go about CMS, should I tell him I’m going to? I feel bad just doing it should I give him the chance to pay? I know I might not get the agreement we have with CMS but at least I would get something. I know he will pull the DNA test card tho 😞😒
In which part are you sounding horrible? U don't sound horrible at all , sound like a mother that does everything for their child with no help from her father
Contact cms and set up child maintenance he can play the dna test card but he will eventually end up having to pay. You need financial help in raising his child u shouldn't feel guilty for that if he earns lot of money and barely give u any money
You don’t sound horrible at all, you sound like someone who’s doing it all and then some and needs to vent some frustration and have some people who are impartial confirm if you’re losing the plot or not.
And you’re so so right to be pissed off and annoyed.
You can’t always be positive, you can’t always let it brush off your shoulders. You can’t always hide behind a small, sometimes you need to scream and shout at the unfairness of it all.
If he’s leaving your kid in unsafe environments ( random friends ) I’d be seriously considering if he’s allowed take your LO, regardless if he’s the dad or not.
I hope it gets better for you xx
Thanks so much for understanding that’s exactly how I feel and it’s so hard sometimes! I think I will because I’m getting sick of it he treats our daughter like he’s poor and struggling when really he is doing well for himself just would rather spend on himself and going out with friends! It’s not fair for her I do everything I can for her but he always wants to claim he’s a great dad and I’m terrible we’ll it’s about time he started showing effort into being a great dad!
Thank you so much for being understanding I appreciate it! That’s what I worry about it’s his ‘friends’ etc but to me and baby they’re strange men who we’ve never seen it’s not fair for her to be put into situations like that but if I say anything I just get made out to be crazy! There’s absolutely no co parenting with him I try to keep him up to date with things like foods she can manage etc but he just sees it as I’m telling him what to do, and I can never rely on him paying full attention to her and making sure she is safe! Plus I’m starting to query a drink problem but I don’t want to be accusatory everything is did behind my back but it would make sense why I’m getting no money towards her now and why he’s always in pubs and hungover
Yea he's trying to bring u down cos he knows how crap a father he is. Get onto cms and ignore his comments, just remember he only saying it cos he is failing so bad.
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