Sleeping through the night

A quick question if you’re baby sleeps through the night 3/4 months old… do you mean they’re sleeping for example 7pm to 7am and not waking up at all? Or do you mean they generally sleep around 12 hours BUT they may wake up for a feed but go straight back to sleep after a feed? I keep seeing people saying their baby sleeps through the night but I don’t understand how babies are going 12 hours without food or a change?!

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Most babies don’t go 12hrs till they’re on solids. Our lg goes to bed at 7pm, we wake her up at 11pm to feed her, she only takes around 4oz then goes back to sleep. Her next bottle isn’t till after 7am. She still wakes a little but we only give her a dummy, and she goes back off. This can happen a few times a night but I generally search for the dummy in the dark and pop it in without opening my eyes haha. We’ve done this since she was 9wks old.

I wish haha

Mine probably does about 9 hours but he has his dummy given to him a few times in the night if he has a little moan x

I think they mean around 12 hours but surely with feeds?! Mine doesn't go one night without atleast waking once sometimes 3/4 times and she doesn't do these naps everyone talks about either, I'm hoping she will start consolidating naps around 5 months and then I guess longer sleep ones solids are established 😭

So mine is 7-7 (a dream feed at 11pmish) but he doesn't wake up for it.

Then he wakes up anytime between 6.40-7.20.

So I pull him into bed for his first feed on the boob and then we get up to start the day.

Other than first feed, I pump. So I know for definite he gets 32oz through pumped milk as he has it in bottles 4x8oz, just the first feed I have no idea how much he has.

Not started on solids yet as he's only just turned 4 month a few days ago.

I don't do a nappy change overnight. Albeit, nappy is full, but not leaking, and he doesn't suffer with any nappy rash.

He doesn't poop overnight, or I would change still.
I use Aldi Mamia size 3 nappies, and they hold that overnight wee in tight with no leaks.

My biggest top tip for sleeping longer at night is to have a bigger wake window before bedtime.
He wakes from his last nap at 3.30ish and we keep him awake.
Lots of play and exploration time.

Start bedtime routine at 6.15, pj's, feed, read a book, and then into the crib, and I tell him it's bedtime.

He will stir a little, but doesn't wake up crying, can just tell when he's moving between sleep cycles.

He did used to wake every 2 hours though, and then I had it when he would sleep til 3am, and then every half hour wake up.

But our routine now just really works for us.

We even had a later day out last week, where he had his last bottle, pj change at grandmas and fell asleep in car... And I just transferred him into bed when we got home and he was fine.
I was actually in shock.

But yeah, best tip - wear them out with play 😂

My boy does 8pm until anytime from 4.45-5.45 ish. Then he wants a bottle, will get a change if he pooped and back down hopefully until 7/8am.

We get to bed around 9:30 pm and sleep till 8am with sometimes a little settling but no feed or change

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