Home births

For mamas having home births, how are you setting up? Who will you have there with you? Do you have children already and will they attend the birth? I want to have a home birth but as of right now I’m be in hospital for my baby’s birth.

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I wanted to go to a birthing center. So it was more of a "home" environment. But my state doesn't have them and the closest one in Ohio is over an hour away. So mine will be in the hospital as well. My "babysitter" to watch my 6 year old is an hour and a half away so we will see what happens. I hate that I can't bring my daughter to the hospital with me.

Exactly. I want my sons to be there with me too. Also thought of a birthing center but then it’s almost like you might as well. Just go to a hospital at that point because I don’t know if kids are allowed there.

On the other hand, though also there’s visitor limitations at the hospital that people can’t just ignore and show up with some people in my family might do so I’m thankful for that at least

Hi, I am having a homebirth and will have both my children home with me. I've asked them if they want to be here or elsewhere and they both want to be here! I will have my husband, my midwife, photographer and also my own mother will likely be here. I've had my mom present for all of my births, the first time.. for me. The second time for my daughter and this time she will be here for my kids again! It's best for me to have her here for them so that my husband and I can focus on the birth and the kids don't feel neglected or they have someone to make them food or hang out and just be there for them.

I love this. I want to do just that but I am not sure how one would go about that. Plus I’d assume I’d have to have changed to a midwife from my OB by now (at 37 weeks) but I am so envious of you in the best way. Best of luck to you all :)
Is this your first home birth?

it's my second homebirth, 3rd baby! And actually it's not too late to change! I switched from the OBs at the hospital to midwives at the hospital with my first around 35-36 weeks pregnant and then with my second, I only found my midwife for homebirth at like 37 weeks! Prior to her, I was at another practice --- most birth centers and homebirth midwives will actually give you a massive discount for a late transfer as they didn't provide any of the pregnancy services like blood work, ultrasounds, etc! It might be worth looking into if you really do want to have a homebirth or a more like.. intimate experience at a birth center 🥲 but I know sometimes switching later in pregnancy can feel daunting but it's usually when I feel the most compelled to make that decision and I feel more connected with my baby at this final stage

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5 months today🥺

where has the time gone!!!

Can you see anything? I’m 12 DPO 🙏

My own opinion is that this is inconclusive (can maybe see a vvvfl but could also be an indent too hard to tell) but curious what others see

C - section

Hello lovelies, I’m getting closer to my date of c section.

Can I ask how it all went for you? I felt prepared and now I have this awful feeling what if I bleed out! I’m sure that’s not the case. But I just wondered how it went, and how the aftermath was. I have seen on social media people say it’s horrendous but then I speak to friends and family and they’re like yeah it’s not easy but you can cope! You can walk, etc. I think it’s the unknown… lol!

Also were you all sick during your procedure and did you all get terrible trapped gas? If so what tips do you have xx

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I just found out I may need to be induced early due to preeclampsia and having a generally bigger baby which of the ways to be induced do y’all recommended?

This is a bit strange.. but hear me out

I am 36 weeks and 4 days today.
I had that feeling, you know when you are trying to take a tampon out on your end of period and it kind of hurts because the tampon is dry? I had that sensation today?

Now I feel like I have to push something about my vagina? It kinda tickles but uncomfortable. I’m not having any pains at all anywhere btw so can’t be baby ??

cheating dream

i need advice but PLS DON'T JUDGE!!!
last night i had a dream, i always used to dream my partner cheating on me with my friends, or being super mean, but since we had our baby those dreams disappeared. for context, we haven't been able to have sex yet, I'm 12 weeks pp, and my pelvic floor is so tense, and it's awful.
last night i had a VERY weird dream, it was so realistic, and different from others, he handed me his phone, and ask me to help him handle this girl, like annoyed? in the chat this girl was super obsessive, and messaged him a lot before he replied. she asked him to sing a song to her, and he sent her a voice message singing it, and other voice messages i couldn't listen in the dream. i wrote her to stop, and she was angry, telling me he started it. then i confronted him about this (still in the dream) and he changed his attitude, he seemed so guilty and said to me he had deleted some messages. i don't remember much else, but i woke up with the URGE of checking his insta messages. we've been together for 5 years, and I've never checked his phone, and neither has he (that i know if, at least) and contained myself, but I'm still very much concerned about it. it felt like an epiphany, a revelation or smth like that. I know people might think I'm overreacting but i can't get it out of my head, it was so specific.
i though about asking him to show me, but i know he'll be bothered that i don't trust him (i would be too in his place), but if he's cheating he would say that to make me feel bad. also i thought about checking his phone in his sleep, and then ask him to see his reaction, but feel so bad, i wouldn't like if he went through my phone without asking, even tho I have nothing to hide.
please, be kind!!