My husband wants to go to a stag-do holiday with his bestfriends.

Previously I’ve allowed him to go once - he broke my trust in the sense that strippers were called over by other friends of the groom and my husband said he didn’t know they were coming. He broke my trust because I didn’t know that strippers were invited I was told it was a lads trip to Lake District. I hadn’t called him except once during the trip and that happened to be when he was seeing the strip show. He didn’t tell me on the phone that that’s what’s was happening and instead he seemed to be in a rush to shut the phone. And then later on when he came back he thought I found out by accidentally seeing the video of the stoppers he made but instead I didn’t and he ended up telling me himself. And now his other mate is having a stag do and I don’t want him to go, it’s been 3 years since the last incident and since then lot has happened - his father has passed away and we had a baby. And I do trust him but I don’t trust his friends. His friends keep making fun of him for not going and now he’s getting upset with me because I’m not letting him go either. Mind you we have been married for 4 years and he never has taken me to a holiday due to financial reasons and even now he doesn’t have an income but his friends want to pay for him. And last year he didn’t let me go on holiday with my parents and our daughter because he said he wanted to be there when our daughter takes a flight for the first time. My parents were gonna pay for everything so money wasn’t the issue - he didn’t have any income then either. (He has been struggling with employment) What do you think I should do- because I’m now feeling pressured too. FYI - this time they are going abroad to Agadir

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I’ve always been under the impression that stag dos, just like bachelorette parties, are haram anyway. But personally no I wouldn’t let my husband go considering the previous circumstances. You should tell him that pleasing his friends over his wife isn’t a good look x

Say no, because he didn’t let you go on holiday without him & because he’s been broke for too long to tell you what to do in my opinion. You can’t not be a provider for your family but then be going to see strippers and not telling your wife from the jump

Also, they’re going Agadir 🥴 you already know they’re planning haram

First of all as a Muslim man he shouldn’t even be in them places , don’t let him go.

@Amelia I don’t even know what Agadir is! I’ve come to realisation now but it annoys me that his friends are causing arguments between me and him now. He prays on time Allhumdulillah now before he didn’t - he has defo matures and I feel sorry for him because he’s been through so much - but his friends are still his friends and the location their going to is stupid too! I told him go umrah and I’ll let you go but I don’t trust your friends 😭

Tell him no you don’t feel comfortable and he should respect that. And Agadir is a definite no too - it’s got a bad rep.

Agadir is a massive red flag. Its better to say no now and avoid him from being exposed to haram. His friends sound like a bad influence, but in the end he is responsible for his own actions he could have easily walked out of that strip do. Just say no and stand firm & don't feel bad about it, you're protecting your marriage and refraining him from committing sin.

I had to read the replies to realise that it was posted in a muslimah group. Coz ik for non Muslims, strippers are normalised even while married. But a Muslim man?!! That’s not just disrespectful to you, that’s haram all togetherrr. And he should not be friends with these guys if they’re not religious or doing haram things

Yeah, I wouldn't either. Plus, why is he allowed to go abroad and not you. Not fair at all. Are his friends Muslims

Oh this is really sad to read hun. You would hope he would just say no to them bec he has the knowledge of what might happen in this holiday and knowing it will most likely be haram distance himself. Its a shame some men are not as strong faithed and willed as we would hope. Speak to him calmly and explain your rrasons for him not going, the main 1 being haram may happen and yiu want him to avoid that