Midwife comment upset me

I would request to move midwife. I’ve suffered a loss recently and so I would be very hurt by this comment too x

That’s completely inaccurate and inconsiderate. False positive can happen on rare occasions and usually it’s the test not working right. Your babies are absolutely real and the loss is real. She needs to be reported or something. That’s not a good standard of care. Are you able to get a new midwife?

I would request to change midwives. I’ve had 6 miscarriages before this pregnancy along with a long infertility journey and a PTSD diagnosis, I had a terrible experience with my first community midwife who invalidated all of my experiences and was just an awful person. I made a complaint and asked to switch as I don’t want her to have anything to do with my current pregnancy or baby once they are born x

She’s rude and awful but I have two documented miscarriages, I have been under EPU three times and I’m only classed as “medium risk” because of medication. The fact I’ve had two losses didn’t play into my risk factors at all.

She is talking chemical pregnancy which to us matters but clinically isn’t a miscarriage before a certain point . But regardless she still shouldn’t be expressing her opinion to you. If you call the main office number in your notes you can change your midwife. Please don’t continue or see someone who makes you feel bad.

Just need to add my personal opinion is that a chemical pregnancy is a valid loss.

I would change midwives. I'd never go back to this one again. Is there someone higher up you can talk to? Report this. This is DISGUSTING. My pregnancy losses were between 5 and 6.5 weeks. MY BABIES EXISTED. I'm so disgusted.

Absolutely horrible to say about women who have miscarried. Chemical pregnancy or "blighted ovums" are actually babies. I've read into it. The best theory the researchers have are that they are babies who have genetic abnormalities and aren't compatible with life or growth past a certain point, so when their genetics formed at fertilization, some errors happened. But they are still human lives and they just die very early. The fertilized egg has to implant before a placenta can develop so a very under-developed human baby was alive for atleast a few days to a week before dying. You can have a "chemical pregnancy" up to 6 weeks which the baby has little arms and legs then and suddenly the baby will die and the placenta will continue to grow for a couple more weeks until your body realizes it's miscarried. So no, women don't get positive pregnancy tests and then periods, they get positive pregnancy tests and miscarry their babies very early on.

Thanks everyone, it really helps to hear other people are just as upset and angry about this as me. I had considered looking into changing midwifes but hadn't considered reporting her before. However I think your right, someone need to explain to her that she shouldn't be talking like that.

Incog . My friend was asked if her pregnancy was viable (at 25 weeks) she reported the midwife and she was reprimanded and sent for sensitivity training. Definitely worth doing xx