Every single month my mom either asks me for money for food. Month after month it's the same thing. I told her a month or 2 ago that I cannot afford to continue to feed her. I can barely feed myself & my 1 year old. I told her she's gonna have to figure out her own stuff cuz I just can't do it. Well, she continues to beg me for food every month.
The part that pisses me off the most is that she spends $200/month on cable. $200/month renting furniture. She buys all this stuff she doesn't need then complains all month that she's hungry & don't have food. I just don't understand. I'm sick & tired of this. I just don't know what to do. She won't stop asking. I felt bad at first but now I don't. At her age, she should be able to manage her money better.
I'm on government assistance. The government doesn't give me money to feed her, my daughter and me. I just cant afford it.
On top of all that, my mom hasn't been the best mom. She's been abusive to me as a child. She has stolen from me countless times..there's been times when she ate in my face & didn't care. She's done horrible things to me but yet, I'm the one she calls every month for money & food..I'm just over this. How would you handle this situation?
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I would stop giving her money. I know it’s your mom but she is an adult and your obligation is your child and yourself. If you can’t afford it don’t

Stop giving her money and if needs be cut her out of yours and your daughters life! It’s hard, will take time to adjust and you may need to grieve ‘your loss’ but it does get easier when you don’t have the drama in your life! Xx

You have to stop giving her money and let her know that if she brings it up then the call or visit will be over - then follow through.

I would just point blank tell her no and wouldn't give her another penny. The more you give her the more she will continue to ask and beg. When she is actually really hungry she will start cancelling cable etc so she can actually eat. X

Can you go to her place on her pay day and help her make an online supermarket shop that will last until next pay? All the essential healthy food, planned out.
Then, if she runs out it's only treats she is without
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