Respect?

As a stay home mom. I talk really talk to anyone. When my husband gets home I’m excited to talk about my day. But as I was telling my husband what I did today or what happened he told me “ when I come home I don’t want to talk to you and hope you can respect that”

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Yh, that’s not right at all

I agree, that’s not right. I don’t wanna scare you but something is definitely up

Wow that’s so unbelievably rude! I would be livid if my partner spoke to me like that

As someone with ADHD, I often was pretty overstimulated after work and desperately needed to decompress. That being said I found ways to do that without making my husband feeling any less, like I really got into listening to audiobooks on my ride home. I started taking the back roads so it was just a little bit of a longer drive. I came home more refreshed and ready to connect.

I definitely feel like your husband's delivery could use some work, I admit it makes me wonder if he is neurodivergent in some way.

Definitely wrong. I'd have a serious talk with yourself about what you want to do. Then talk to him about his role in a relationship/marriage and if he doesn't want to be apart of it, then why is he here? I feel with that comment the relationship is stained anyways. But ur not a punching bag and he needs to know that!!

well he use to drink heavily and talk to me like this but now he’s a month sober he still talks like that

I’ve tried and it gets me nowhere. I’m always to blame for the way he treats me.

today I told him how I feel with the way he talked to me and the way I’m the only one taking care of the newborn and two year old. All he can say is I pay all the bills. So the children are my responsibility.

Same problem, but hey! I'm here to talk

Check his phone and the delete messages. If he has an iPhone go to messages and on the left hand corner click on Edit and you’ll see the recently deleted message’s

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We have a 2.5 year old, a dog and I’m 31 weeks pregnant with our second.

I still have worked up until this point, I have one more shift left (extremely stressful because they haven’t bothered doing a risk assessment which I am aware is illegal)

I still look after my toddler and dog everyday including meals, dog walks, activities etc

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