Nightfeeds

I posted about this a little while ago. For ages my little one was waking just once for a feed in the night then again possibly about 5-6am, have another bottle and back to sleep for a while. Hes now gone to waking at 11ish for a feed and 3ish for another. He just won’t settle any other way. The 11pm one, he’ll go back to sleep nice and quickly but 4am this morning, he didn’t go back to sleep for an hour 🙃 we don’t change him everytime now, keep the room dark (with a red light when feeding) and now have a flask of hot water so making a bottle is super quick.

Anyone else had this and have a solution for me? He also doesn’t take much of his bedtime bottle. Tuesday night, he did and still woke for 2 feeds!

Ps. Edited to add we rock him for the many other times he wakes. He had a grand total of 1hr
& 20 min nap over 2 naps and a little snooze yesterday (he was with my Mum) he usually has 2hrs over 2 naps with us. Has breakfast of porridge, a main meal at lunchtime and maybe a snack later on. Bottles of 7oz at 7, 11, 3, 6:30. Didnt have the 3pm bottle yesterday but only drank 4oz only 6:30 bottle, then woke at 11 & 4 for more 🙃

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FTM First night home advice

Hello! FTM here and have just come home with baby. I am so tired as obviously didn’t sleep a wink in hospital. But I am SO paranoid my baby will stop breathing so I just cannot sleep I have to be able to hear her. Someone tell me I’m not going mad and it will get easier!!??

Wake Windows

Out of interest, how long are your LO's wake windows at 5 months? 🙂

Just need to vent

I think my husband and I are very much diving off a cliff toward divorce.

We’re both exhausted and that’s not helping.

Our daughter is 19 months old and for the last 5 weeks she’s refusing to sleep longer than a few hours in her cot. She wakes up sometimes after 2 hours, sometimes after 5 hours, it’s never consistent, and she then refuses to go back down in her cot. She has to be asleep on someone. It started with her having to sleep on me and hated her dad, then it moved to sleeping on either one of us, and it’s stayed that way ever since.

We’re both not only getting little sleep but we’ve been passing tonsillitis back and for to each other for months now even without being near each other.

We don’t kiss anymore or hold hands, we don’t say I love you very much or show that we do, we don’t do anything intimate… we just co exist in the same house.

I don’t know if it’s because of the constant illnesses or this sleep issue we’re having, but I don’t think we’re going to last much longer. We’re constantly snapping at each other and swearing at each other.

We don’t have time to ourselves because we don’t have a village or anyone available to babysit for us so we can’t get back on track that way.

I just feel like we had a child and everything went wrong.

We’ve only been married 2 and a half years and it’s already falling apart. I’m so disappointed but I’m also so fed up of being spoken to like absolute shit on a daily basis.

I don’t know what I want from this post. I just needed to vent and get it out because I have no friends and nobody to talk to about this stuff.

PPD

Is it possible to get ppd 7 months after having my baby? I was initially REALLY enjoying him, I felt like I was doing so well, but just recently I’m struggling so bad, I am crying constantly, I have no motivation to do literally anything. I am still caring for my baby, he’s fine, but I feel like I am neglecting myself. I feel so lonely all of a sudden like I just exist to be Mum and that’s it and I don’t understand why I’ve started getting these thoughts and feelings, I feel so guilty that I’m not enjoying it anymore 💔 I love him so much I’m just feeling really lost.

Been informed my child is behind her peers

My child is 4 in June and today I had parents evening and her teacher has mentioned she does not hold her pen correctly. It has also been mentioned she does not know numbers or shapes which I was aware of and we have been working on. She has also been put forward for speech therapy.

Any suggestions on what I can try ?
Resources or toys I can purchase?

AITA

My youngest is 19 months and still breastfeeds. I am the one who usually puts him down for naps. Today he went down and woke up like 44 mins later I tried to get him back down and he woke back up again. My partner is upset that he didn't go back to sleep. Im not trying hard enough, I'm letting the baby have power etc stupid s****. It's pissing me off bcus why are you so mad? I understand we have things we eed to do in the house today but still.