Post partum depression?

Im not sure if this qualifies as post partum depression/ anxiety or is normal?
I’ve been on prozac since pregnancy might I add.. I’ve been feeling extremely angry/ anxious and fed up with everything. I went back to work at 8 weeks PP and still have to try to manage my two babies from there and have my in laws over every weekend leaving a huge mess for me to clean and having to host and get no sleep with night feedings and my 2 year old in our bed. I cannot stand anyone or myself and my mother in law wants me to host her other son and his wife who hates us on my two days off (weekend) along with her own sister and husband to meet the new baby and specified it must be separate visits . I want to run away for a couple of hours or just sleep for one hour. I feel like im drowning completely

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Your feelings are totally valid.
Are you able to speak to your partner about how you feel? When the problem is his family it would be great to get his support in putting boundaries in place x

I can’t judge if your have pp depressed or not, but wanted to validate your feelings x

Whether it’s ppd or not, you need support. The situation sounds really stressful. Can you talk to your partner or MIL and explain that you need a lot more support and down time at wknds? X

Oh god that sounds like a lot!
What you need is a break!
I was going through a difficult time too a month or so ago and I had a small talk with a good friend whos a psychologist and I got the usual:
Catch up on a bit of extra sleep
Take vitamins
Have some "me time" every week even if its 30min. its the usual but I had to hear it
You are over worked and sleep deprived and you should talk to your husband about it, its his family thats imposing a lot, you shouldn't be cleaning their mess specially if they are regulars, they should be coming to help, both my parents and his parents come over and help us catch up on stuff like deep cleaning. You are not the family buttler!

This is exactly why I made it very clear when I will accept visitors. You need to speak to your husband and find your voice. Ppl may not like it, but your mental health is far more important than their feelings. Schedule visits according to what works for you.

I would have 1 day on the weekend for visits. And give it a certain timeframe so you're not completely worn out in one day and if they can't respect their wishes then they don't need to come over and visit at all. Your mental help is very important after having a baby. Maybe ask your husband to take the kids while everyone is over an you go take a nap. In laws should be able to help with them too while they're there.

Anger and frustration is real feeling related with PPD! It was my biggest one that I still struggle with even 2 years later. I got on an extra med due to my very short temper.
Before meds someone would ask how I’m doing or say “oh, isn’t it great becoming a mother!” And I would start yelling at them in public.

But for real, there’s meds out there for the anger if you want to look into it

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My best friend of 15 years and I are in similar stages of life and her behaviour has gotten increasingly erratic and triggering. I am about to have my first baby and she is struggling with postpartum from her second who was born last August. All the “normal” post partum depression symptoms I totally understand but she has also in my opinion made a lot of selfish choices recently.

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