How to transition to Crib?

My baby is 8 months and I think time to transition her to a crib. She is way too active during her sleep and is preventing me from gettingany sleep. We've co slept since birth and she will pretty much only contact nap. How do I go about transitioning her??? Any advice please! Sincerely, a very tired mama.

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We co-slept from birth to 6 months and found that what worked for us was to let her fall asleep on our bed as usual, but then we started moving her to the crib when we went to bed and this has worked great so far. Example is she falls asleep at 7pm on our bed, I move her across at 9pm and she doesn't wake up until 3am for a feed. Usually I bring her back to our bed for that feed, but I'm so happy with the first part of the night she's in her crib haha

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is the crib in your room or babies room?

I did something similar to , but I would essentially rock him to sleep (like super asleep), transfer to the crib, and then co-sleep after he woke up. The stretches became longer and longer until he’s basically in there all night now.
Then I was able to transfer for naps easier. It’s still not perfect for naps, but much better than contacting sleeping for EVERY nap.

how old was baby when you started this?

Around five months. He’s 9 months now and sleeps really well and wakes up (mostly) happy. He’s not a great napper, but nights are definitely easier. And we never felt the need to CIO.

I've kept the crib in our room, its right next to the bed on my side so if she stirs I put my hand on her back and she settles without fully waking up. Most nights we can get about 7 hours of her sleeping in her crib before she comes back into our bed. It makes the transfer much easier too so if she's fallen asleep on our bed I am kneeling on the bed and just lift her up and pop her into the crib haha I do the same for naps now too so I rock her (or feed her) to sleep and once she's asleep I put her in her crib for all day naps too. BUT I have never successfully put her in her cot while she's awake and she's fallen asleep, that just never happens.

Also when she wakes up and cries while she's in the crib I never rush to pick her up. I go into the room straight away and I sit next to the crib and talk to her and let her wake up and bring her a teddy and I feel like this has made the crib less of a place she "needs to get out of". If I'm playing with her on the bed she crawls so fast to climb into her crib it's hilarious it's like a game. If I had a tip for anyone, it would be to not immediately get them out of the crib when they're awake and crying but to spend some time with them in the crib when they wake up so it's not a scary place that we immediately remove them from

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My 6 month old has suddenly started to do abit of co sleeping in the night. She sometimes go back to her bed but alot of the time it’s out of pure exhaustion from me that I just let her sleep with me. I haven’t got any energy to be rocking her back to sleep and putting her down with possibly failing the attempt. But for some reason I feel a sense of guilt like I’m going to have problems later on if it continues. Someone put my mind at ease please?

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I’m so sick of arguing with my husband over this.

My daughter is 11 weeks old, and my husband works Monday to Friday. I look after her all day every day, and on the weekends and some evenings he goes out cycling. I don’t mind this, he gets extremely ratty and stir crazy if he doesn’t go out, and it drives me mad.

Lately. My daughter’s sleep pattern is all over the place in terms of the second stretch. She tends to go for 6 hours, then has a feed, then either goes for another 4 hours, or starts to fuss at about 5:30 am. (I realise this first stretch is a dream, please believe me I’m not complaining about that.

My husband starts work at 7 am from home, or leaves at 6 am if he’s going into the office.

This means that he comes home, feeds her once while I’m in the shower, while I handle all of the other feeds/ settling her off at night. I rarely go back to sleep after as I’m so wired. He also struggles to sleep once he’s awake, so when she fusses for her night feed, he’s up from around 4 am regardless of feeding her or not.

I see him for around 3 hours a day apart from weekends, and in that time I cook, he does the dishes and cleans the bottles. We then bath/wash LO, he feeds her, then we watch a film or show until her next feed at 9:30 pm.

He has gone up to bed early to try and get more sleep because he feels like he’s exhausted to the point of headaches. (I am too, but it seems like this isn’t as important because I don’t go to work. He acknowledges that it’s hard work looking after her all day, this isn’t the problem). I have stayed downstairs with her, because to me, disturbing a sleeping baby only to put her in a crib for 30 minutes after settling her again, to feed her and then have to restart the process is ridiculous when she’s asleep already.

I feel like I do everything. I feed and settle her every time. When he can’t calm her down within 10 minutes he passes her back despite me having her all day and him not seeing her.

I love my daughter more than anything, and my husband is lovely, I swear. It’s just a really tough time with her sleep, and I’m struggling to cope. I’m so, so tired. And he doesn’t seem to realise this, because he is. We have talked about this so many times, but it just turns into an argument. Please tell me this will pass?

When did your child stop taking naps?

My son is almost 3 and just been moved to a big kid bed (out of crib) and isn't napping. No surprise of course with the big change. It took him a long time to get to sleep last night first sleep in there too. My husbands coworker said when they switched his toddler out of the crib into first big kid bed he stopped napping that day. Wondering on other's experiences. Thanks in advance!