Frustration venting

Ooooh that would drive me crazy!! Maybe remind him that his daughter is only 50% him, and your son is only 50% him. The other 50% is you. They're not even really growing up in the same household. Why would they be the same???

Omg that drives me insane. I just say “every kid is different, let’s see” and smile lol. Or sometimes I just say “good for (name)”

Thus far I’ve pulled the “this is a different situation, just because it worked for her doesn’t mean it will for him, they are different”

What’s his response?

“It’s okay for there to be similarities”

It can be difficult to think about but remember you will have a huge role in how your son is brought up vs stepdaughter. Do your best to share healthy habits for her because she is still learning and growing and you have the opportunity to influence her attitude.

Preschool teacher here(infant-2s), we are told constantly every kid is different and never the same. One thing that works for one kid might now work for another and we need to be ready on how to handle anything in at least 3-5 different ways.

It is not healthy to compare children. It is psychologically not healthy for anyone to be compared to another in a negative way. "Be more like ____"

Just because you raised a good eater the first time doesn't mean the 2nd one is gonna throw a curve ball and only eat bread. Just because the first one is super emotional doesn't mean the 2nd one is also a ticking time bomb.

I have twins and they are literally so different 😂 one takes a binky the other doesn't. One is independent the other is hold me

I had the same experience . My husband always compared our then newborn to his first daughter . When what he used to do didn’t work for our daughter he would get upset and make it seem like there was something wrong with my daughter or that she’s not listening, mind you she must’ve been just a few weeks old . I snapped and started going off about how every kid if different . And trying to compare his every other weekend watching his first daughter shouldn’t be compared to our daughter. He tried to argue and say how his first born was never that difficult and how he’s constantly tired with our daughter . I said of course , having to stay up around the clock 24/7 is more tiring compared to just the weekend . Come Sunday SD goes back to her moms and he goes about his usually work / social life during the week. I guess what I’m saying is that trying to explain the different dynamics might help before you end up arguing as much as I did lol

I completely get it! My fiancé has three daughters, our 9 month old is his youngest. His 9 year old lives with us and is very difficult for me. He is always saying my kids did/do this blah blah. I tried to explain to him that it hurts me because she’s my first and it’s like saying she’s not special or unique. He doesn’t get it.