Need help please!!
Hello mummas!
I need some help desperately!!!! When my baby had turned 7mo old about a month ago, he had gotten sick with RSV! Took about 1-2weeks for him to fully recover. But everything changed about him after that.
He refuses a bottle at all cost, he refuses a pacifier, and he refuses to sleep for more than 2-3hrs! He is now going to turn 8mo in a couple days. It’s been a month of this craziness!!! He used to sleep 7-7 with a couple of wake ups, but he always just took the pacifier and a couple shhs, and off to sleep again. Now, I have to rock and feed him if it’s been 3hrs.
When I try to give him the pacifier now, he instantly grabs it and takes it out. He also will shoot it out of his mouth, or chew on it. He would take the pacifier at night, or at settle down time. Now it’s like he forgot what it is!
When i try to give him a bottle, he will chew on the bottles nipple. Or turn his head every which way. And cry. I exclusively breastfeed, and since he gets up every 2-3hrs all night now, I thought I could give him a nice big bottle before bed. To ensure he is fed well. And to also give myself a small break. I have tried all bottles & different nipple sizes! I have also tried the bait and switch and he screams at me! For the first 5mo I was exclusively pumping, so I have a lot of stashed milk, and I know he knows how to take a bottle!!
Every 2-3hrs he wakes up and screams. So we pick him up and try to shh and rock him back to sleep. When we lay him down again, if it’s been 3hrs he will continue to cry until I feed him. But if it’s been 1-2hrs I can get him down until the 3hrs. I’m so tired. When he was a newborn, he would sleep 4-5hrs, and I always had to wake him up to feed him. And before RSV every night he slept for 11-12hrs great! I don’t believe in any cry it out method. As his cry makes me want to peel off my own skin lol!
During RSV I feed him everytime he woke up. Because he wasn’t eating very well, and I was very afraid of lack of wet diapers. So I always tried to feed him or at least offer. And he stopped taking the pacifier during this time because I think it was hard to breathe and constantly suck on it.
So sorry for the long rant. I just need some kind of help! I’m a ftm, and I don’t have anyone else. No family to help guide us! Any advice would be greatly appreciated!!
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Hi mama! I’m sorry your going thru this but it always gets better! I would say he may not like pacifiers anymore or maybe that particular pacifier. For the bottles, my only option was to try the next nipple size but you were saying you did try different sizes. I’d say also try looking into a magnesium spray (spray on his feet) or magnesium lotion and rub his body with it to help him sleep better.
I’m so sorry. My son hasn’t had RSV. But just wanted you to know we are in a very similar season here. No paci. Does take a bottle but prefers to nurse back to sleep. Wakes every 2-3 hours crying to be fed. Biting everything. Sleep worse than ever.
Some things I’ve found out:
- there’s an 8 month sleep regression where it gets ROUGH
- teething
- 7-9 months is the height of separation anxiety
Sorry I don’t have solutions just commenting. Maybe teething drops?
Also you perfectly describe the crying reaction. It literally sends me into fight or flight. I cannot handle it. Whining is fine but those desperate cries for soothing are killer. Literally feels like you’re going to claw off your skin or something. 😅
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