People bursting my labour plans bubble🤣🥲

I'm with you on the not wanting an epidural & on some research, apparently a water birth is meant to help reduce pain and relax you more (I've never given birth so I can be 100%) but I also know many women who have given birth with just gas and air it isn't impossible and they say its mind over matter. What will be will be with labour and we will get through it, it's what our bodies our made to do x

With my first I wanted a natural water birth did really well but unfortunately for myself my body struggled and baby did as well so ended up having an emergency c section. I’m glad I got to experience contractions etc. you do what’s right for you and don’t let other people change that!

Urg people Love trying to scare new Mum's, honestly it infuriates me.

People do manage natural labour, it is not some unheard of thing.

At the end of the day no one can predict what your labour will be like - You might be like me and your labours will be 2-3hrs and you'll barely have time for gas and air, or you might be someone who labour's 36hrs and needs more pain relief. Or anywhere in between, or some other factor.

Make a birth plan, share it with your midwives, and just know it might not work out. Which, honestly, its clear you're already aware

Sorry but this annoys me so much. At the end of the day it's your choice and opinion. No one knows how they will react to being in labour. Some find it "easy" some have a more difficult time. I had to have an emergency epidural with my first and absolutely hated it. Would never recommend it to anyone!!! There is a lot of things you can do to prepare your body for a smoother more natural labour. Just remember it's your body and your body knows what it is doing so trust it 🙏🥰

I understand where you are coming from. I had the same with my daughter ( was my first labour) I wanted water but couldn’t but did it with just gas and air. It is possible and my midwife team were great. As long as you just communicate with your labour team exactly how you feel, that’s the important thing and have your birth partner know too what you want so they can advocate for you if needs be. Also, on the flip side I would make sure youre aware of the other procedures etc that may occur if needed so if things have to change you can also make informed choices - knowledge is power ❤️

Don't walk, RUN away from epidural! 😂
My sister who had birth her 4 children vaginally with no gas and whatever, and had been encouraging me I could do it. She gave me all the needed boost before I went in for my first.

I was doing just great with labour and baby was almost ready to come out before I felt like I was going to pass out. Midwife recommend epidural at the last minute (knowing I wouldn't turn down at this point even though I had told them earlier I didn't want), I said yes and REGRETTED it right the moment the needle went through my back! 😩

It did NOTHING to help! 😩 I was still in the exact pain! And even worse because my legs kept shaking as a side effect of the epidural they said.
My job is also back-breaking and coupled with breastfeeding the baby, I am still struggling with the bad back effects of the epidural even while pregnant with the second one now! 😢

I keep praying and preparing for another natural birth! As far as there are no complications for a c-section, we can do it. 🤗

I also didn't want epidural and I didn't. I did appreciate the gas and Air though. I think generally it's in the room anyway so easy to have it if needed. I don't see any harm in wanting to try without, especially if you don't pressure yourself. Even if you start with none that's still something and you'll have that feeling even if you add something later. If other people's opinions are upsetting you maybe don't tell everyone until after lol.

Thank you everyone, just really needed a rant on here🤣 it’s not even like I’m telling everyone my plans it’s mainly family just because they’ve asked, I wouldn’t mind if they were like “just remember it’s going to be hard so don’t beat yourself up if you don’t manage yourself” instead of just absolutely shutting me down🤣🥲 xx

My midwife said to try and go as natural as possible and while that’s not for everyone if that’s what you want to do I’d say go for it!! My sister had a natural birth and she said it was amazing so yes definitely go for that if you want :)

I hate having convos with others (esp those who have had kids) about my birth plan because immediately there is a bias based on how they did it / perceive it. You do your research and do it your way. Having a solid understanding of natural birth and natural pain management like breathing, gas and air, water, movement, positioning, etc, can only be a positive thing for you, even if you end up using your back up plan. I've heard there are other benefits in the golden hour after pregnancy as well, and personally I'd prefer to be in my right mind for that (if possible).