Overnight stays - am I being unreasonable??
Me and my little one (13m) moved back to my mum's 3 weeks ago. His dad has seen him twice in this time. He's due to see him on Friday for a bit and has asked to have him next Saturday for a birthday which I've agreed to and said I can drop him at 12 after his nap and pick up at 5 to come back for dinner and bed. He's now asking when he can have overnights.
Little one is still adjusting to a new house and I'm having to lay with him to get him to sleep every night and he ends up in with me most nights due to waking up crying.
I've never said no to overnights but I've said not yet whilst he's still adjusting but he can have him every other Saturday. Now I'm getting abuse saying he's his son and he can have him overnight and to "carry on playing silly little games".
Please give your honest opinions and advice for what you would do if you were me.
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My ex did something similar. Are you in mediation? That might help x
My ex took me to court over this. I was told as there is no bad parenting on dad’s part they grant nights to start.
Bear in mind we were moving house and he’s still breastfeeding for nights and doesn’t take bottles at all.
Can you try and give him a timeframe saying we will work towards it?
Like “February next year we will attempt 2 nights within the month (w1 & w3) in this time X needs to happen and I need to see you making a affort on seeing him regularly”
Letting him do the naps on the day he has little one will help
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