Heartbroken

Sorry to read this, I really feel for you. My only question is when I’ve read this is if she hadn’t have broken it off would he have told you or would he still be carrying on sleeping with her? Is he only now grovelling as you have found out.
It’s a very hard position when you love someone so much and even more difficult when children are involved. You’ve just got to ask yourself will you be able to trust him, if not then it’s not worth it as you’ll just stress and worry yourself every time he leaves the house which then will make you unhappy and your little one won’t want you to be unhappy! Hope you’re ok! Xx

He said they ended it because she was upset finding out about me and our child and he told her he was sorry but he loves us and there was no feelings involved it was only ever sex. He said it ended before I found out. 🤷🏼‍♀️
He has today put a tracker on his phone and car keys linked to my phone so I know where he is… but I’ve never been that person to make someone prove where they are ect.
I’m willing to try. I said I can’t promise but if I don’t try I feel like I’ll be letting my baby down and making a rash decision selfishly out of anger and hurt for myself.

In my experience men think using the tools between their legs, and while all your time and attention has been on getting through being pregnant, birth and being a new mum perhaps you massaged his ego less than you normally do hence why he looked elsewhere. No its definitely not your fault he should be man enough to not need his ego massaging but this is immature men for you! No not all men do this! Just my experience !

Nothing wrong with moving nearer your family and keeping it between the two of you as long as you have an outlet. I would also expect some counselling in the mix to support you both through this. Nothing wrong with choosing to stay and work on it as it’s your family and what you want as long as you are happy in the mix.

Look after you and your lo first and let him wait his turn he is earned the right to wait his turn and live with it for now.

Everyone makes mistakes it’s weather you can move past it to be happy x

Keep talking and good luck xx

Thank you I needed to hear that I’m not completely stupid.

I know if I’d read this myself I would roll my eyes and without hesitation I’d say leave him. But it’s so difficult when it’s yourself.
It’s fresh today. I am hurting hard. I’ve tried my best to stay positive for our baby so he doesn’t feel my hurt.
Only time will tell

For now you and your lo are the only two that matter, getting past this is a big ask. Its not weak to stay its not weak to leave its weak to do what everyone thinks you should. It strong to follow your heart.

Allow your self to hurt, cry , process, be angry unsure hate, need,scared love him. ALL your feelings are valid x

For me, this would be an easy decision and it wouldn’t be staying and trying to make it work.
Firstly, he didn’t come clean to you and admit what he had done. If the girl didn’t, you may never have found out and he would have been able to keep that a secret from you forever (on top of all of the lying he’d already done)
Secondly, whilst I don’t personally think there’s a distinction, this wasn’t a one night stand or whatever, this was months of going behind your back to sleep with her. Whilst you were pregnant with his child, and then after you’d become parents- the timing makes it all the more insensitive.
The excuse about attention and needing his ego massaging- parenting is hard and it does put a strain on relationships- next time you’re too busy with your child, will he do the same again?
For me, I just wouldn’t be able to forgive the betrayal. And I want my son to see what a healthy, loving relationship looks like, and what was left after infidelity wouldn’t be that in my case.

But if you’re strong enough to give this a shot, then you do you- it’s nobody else’s business because it’s not their lives and their family! I’m so sorry you’re having to go through all this hurt, it must be so hard to know what to do for the best. Good luck ❤️

So sorry to read this, no one deserves this ❤️ maybe stay at a family / friend for a few days for some space? That way you can decide whats best for YOU and your child. And please confine in someone, don’t keep it bottled in. Feel free to msg me if u want. Just bear in mind, if you choose to stay and ur unhappy, that will impact your baby too. Your baby needs a happy mum. Sending lots of love xx

This is all such a mess. I know you are all right 😢😢 I’m in absolute bits.
My world has ended, just when I should be at my happiest.

last month of pregnancy AND the first 5 weeks of ur babies life??? Let that man go!!!!🤢

😭

I’ve done the worst thing and sat up all night reading through the print screens this girl had sent me of the messages he had been sending her over the months they were fucking. I cross referenced them with the dates and times on my WhatsApp and he was literally messaging me saying how much me and the boy are his world, then messaging her dirty flirty messages talking about the sex they had had that morning! All at the same time.
I told him it’s over. I can’t see a way I can forgive him. He is distraught, but I’m not even crying.

It’s mad how having a child makes you so strong. All that matters to me is that my little boy is happy and safe with me.

The timing and insensitivity of his actions is huge. No one could blame you for a second for making the choice you have. You have to do whta best for you and you Lo.

Don’t be worried about him being distraught he brought that on himself. Focus on you and getting back to being happy with your new perfect little bundle. Confide in people you can trust and that will support and give yourself some space and tell him to leave for a while so you have a way to at least process and make a plan.

Happy to listen or message if you need support, I’ve been there and found the messages etc, I know how painful it is. Don’t be alone with this x

Eugh, what a piece of shit. That must have been torture to do that, but it’s revealed just how thoughtless and manipulative he’s been. 💔 Don’t let his tears fool you- he knew what was at stake when he did what he did. He’s crying because he got found out and realised his actions have consequences, and maybe he didn’t think you would be strong enough to walk away.

You’ll thank yourself later for getting rid of this guy, when you’ve got through this really shit bit and started the new chapter of your life, you will have no regrets. Your son is all the family you need, you got this ❤️‍🩹💪🏼

Firstly, do not think you are letting your baby down! He has let you both down, and you have done nothing wrong! Whatever choice you make will be the right one for you, no one else can decide that for you. Please remember that staying together isn't always better for the child. I grew up in an argumentative household. My parents always slept in different rooms and I didn't realise this wasn't normal. If you stay with him, this may play on your mind and affect your babies' upbringing in a different way. Do what is best for you, and that will be what is best for your baby xx