Gender disappointment!

I’m so nervous to find out. I have a daughter and really want a boy this will likely be my last pregnancy due to some health issues. I have tried to accept that it’ll probably be a girl because I don’t want to get my hopes up. I know it wasn’t advice but no judgement I get it

I’m so sorry you are feeling that way I kinda feel like I would feel that way if it’s not a girl . I think the feeling will go away once you see your baby but don’t disconnect from your son cause he can feel it

Thank you!

Being in the same boat I completely understand your nervousness and the desire for a boy especially given the circumstances. It's understandable to try to manage our expectations. Whatever the outcome I wish you a healthy pregnancy for you and your little one.

Thank you for your understanding.Not everyone comprehends so I truly appreciate it. I hope and pray that these feelings will subside after seeing the baby. I will try my best not to be disconnected of course I love this baby

I’m in the same boat with gender disappointment! I’m 13 weeks today. Got our NIPT results back yesterday, and while I’m thankful for no chromosomal abnormalities, I was really hoping for a girl. I swore up and down that I was having a little girl!

I told my husband that we need to decide on a name ASAP because I feel like that will help with fetal bonding. I’ve also been shopping for boy clothes on Etsy, which has cuter options than Amazon, IMO. The American Pregnancy Association has a great article with 16 ways to bond with your baby while pregnant. I think being so early in our pregnancies makes it more challenging, but once we can feel our babies move and they can hear our voices, it will come easier.

I was raised by a single mom, so girl stuff is all I know. I am nervous to find out if it is a boy because I fear I'll have the same disappointment. My husband had a distant relationship with his father and grew up with his mother and 2 younger sisters, so we both hope for a girl. We're just more familiar with the ins and outs of female related things. No judgement, it's normal to feel these feelings.

I just want a healthy child ❤️❤️

Thank you for sharing your experience. I completely understand your feelings and I believe it's okay to experience gender disappointment since it's not something we have control over.

It's great that you're proactive in finding ways to bond with your baby by deciding on a name and engaging in fun and distracting yourself shopping for cute clothes. The American Pregnancy Association's article sounds like a great resource I'll definitely check it out.
Wishing you a healthy and positive pregnancy journey!

I appreciate you sharing your personal experience. It's completely normal to feel nervous about the unknown, especially when it comes to gender expectations.Our experiences growing up shape all our expectations. We just have to remember whatever the gender our love and care will shape a unique and wonderful relationship,this is what I’m telling myself since morning.All feelings are valid

I too want a healthy baby and of course I love this baby. However, the experience of losing our baby girl at the end of the second trimester left me longing for her more than I could comprehend hence the difficulty in understanding my current feelings.

Your feelings are not wrong so don’t beat yourself up. There’s no way to have “wrong” feelings.

Just sit with them. Let yourself feel them and maybe reach out to some understanding friends to help you through it.

your girl will come to you eventually ❤️

Thank you for your kind words❤️

I really wanted a boy because my husband girl name choices were horrible and I was so tunnel visioned on that. But when they told me it was a boy I was sad because I loved raising my daughter so much since reality of having a boy hit. Gender shopping has helped talking to my friends with boys have also helped.

It's perfectly normal to feel the way that you are feeling!!
My husband and I really wanted a boy more than anything and we found out what the NIPT test that it's a girl, I cried when I found out I was so sad!!
However, that went away after about 6 weeks at the most and now I'm just incredibly excited!! I promise it will definitely go away!! I don't know about you, but with me, the negative feelings went away way before birth!! I'm 35 weeks now, but I accepted I'm having a girl and fell in love with her, like I said, at the most, 6 weeks after finding out..
Congratulations to you!! And I promise it will get better!! 💗

Gender disappointment is a very normal thing. There’s a lot of control during pregnancy: control over what we eat and drink, control over our exercise, control over names, nursery themes, parenting methods. Gender is just one of a few things that is completely out of our control and it can be hard to accept. For most the feelings will fade, especially when you hold that baby for the first time. Give yourself some time to feel the way you feel.

I am sorry if u feel that way. It was not my intention to make u feel bad or feel that way. With your experience it completely understandable.

I waited three years to conceive a child plus one failed round of IUI and four arounds of IVF. Along with months of disappointment and other sad feelings. With this emotional baggage I just want a healthy child. I even nicknamed my peanut and that still haunts me. I completely understand ur feelings.

I hope now u might understand why I want a healthy child.

Thank you for sharing your experience.I completely understand the sadness that comes when our envisioned journey differs from reality but certain things are beyond our control and we gotta keep going

Thank you for sharing your experience.It means a lot to know that others have gone through similar feelings and that it's okay.I'm going to try to sit through these feelings until I process them and see how things turn out. I hope the initial disappointment will subside with time as it did for you. Congratulations to you too, and wishing you happy parenting for your soon-to-arrive baby girl ❤️

I just found out I’m having boy #2 and I feel the same way. I felt this way last time and I’m happy to say I am SO happy I have this baby boy and have no guilt from feeling sad either. It’s completely normal and I believe you have to go through a bit of “mourning” what you’ve pictured in your mind and then you can really enjoy what you’ve got.
I know I’m done after this baby so I am mourning never having a daughter and getting to experience that. But I know the future will be better than anything I’ve ever pictured or dreamt about ❤️

Yes, you are right. These things are not in our control, and there’s no way we could reverse anything. I guess I just need some time to process this and also to get over the grief which I have been feeling from the loss.That’s when I can truly embrace the new journey. Thank you for the kind words I really appreciate it

I appreciate your openness in sharing your journey. Having gone through a similar experience I can truly empathize with the depth of emotions you've felt. I understand the pain of navigating such a challenging journey.
No hard feelings,your desire for a healthier child is entirely valid and I respect that. I just wanted to express my perspective and the reasons behind my feelings.Wishing you a healthy and positive pregnancy!

Congratulations on expecting another baby boy! It feels good to hear that you've had similar feelings before and found joy in having your first son.
I can resonate with the "mourning" aspect since we build that imagination in our heads even before we know the gender so it's going to take some time to process the fact.The future undoubtedly holds beautiful experiences regardless of the outcome. Wishing you all the best for the arrival of your second son! ❤️

Sorry for your loss but I’m happy your new baby is healthy! I think it’s totally normal to have gender disappointment. I did with my first even, when I found out he was a boy. I clearly love him and wouldn’t trade him for anything. We just found out our second is a girl and I’m so blessed. I know I would have felt sad if it was a boy. I was made to feel guilty about my gender disappointment the first time around. It’s completely normal