Unsuccesful herbal abortion..
OKAY YALL IM OPENING UP ABOUT SOMETHING BIG!
So… I am 8 weeks 2 days preggers and I’m a bit nervous for my first prenatal appointment because… when my period was late I took the herbal abortion teas to try and gently induce my period… needless to say that didn’t work lol baby is staying. But like… I’m nervous because I used strong herbs like black & blue cohosh with pennyroyal and I’m just worried that maybe I harmed my baby? I mean I’m taking all the correct herbs now for growth and I feel great no nausea or anything just always tired these days lol… but you know? I feel guilty if I caused anything… also, will I be able to know the gender this early? Because I really want a boy and if it’s not I’m going to have to mentally prepare myself for a sassy girl and it’ll kinda change the whole vibe of my pregnancy at first not gonna lie so…. Yeah :(
I also can’t wait already to get back to my snapped body.. like I’m not showing yet but I don’t want a mom body… I’m gonna be on the workouts and idk… I guess I’m just a bit in my nerves because this was unplanned. My husband is amazing though super supportive and great with baby!
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I got pregnant with my son…with an IUD. I was genuinely so upset because I planned so much for my year and I had to pause my career and everything I wanted to do. It all changed when I saw my son on the screen for the first time and my whole mood and mentality changed! I had my son 2 weeks ago and he is now our world! It’s okie to be upset mama!
Just curious, have you considered seeking a professional about a medical abortion? Or are you set on becoming a mother? The gender of your baby and whether or not your body is going to look good after pregnancy should be the least of your concerns. This is a decision that will change the entire trajectory of your life. Aside from that, I wouldn’t worry too too much about the herbal teas. Babies/fetuses are pretty resilient early on during pregnancy, regardless of what anyone else will tell you, but definitely let your doctor know.
Also, you can seek out blood tests from Sneak Peak to find out the gender of your baby this early on. With a doctor you’ll probably have to wait until around 20 weeks to find out.
Best of luck!
I am pretty set now! On the 6 day of herbal teas it didn’t feel right anymore.. and though I didn’t like the word of calling myself pregnant, I didn’t feel right ridding of a life when… I am more than capable me of caring for a baby right now, it just wasn’t in my timing and I mean is it really ever in anyone’s timing? So I’m pretty set on our lil baby boy… I am just worried until I get an official okay. I don’t want to lose myself to motherhood like so many do. So I’m on top of that as well. Also thanks for the test
the more time goes on the more I settle into it, taking one day at a time has helped tremendously and feels more manageable.
NIPT testing (if your doctor offers it) can tell you gender as early as 10 weeks (as well as some genetic differences if there are any). It can be very expensive, so check with your insurance before going through with it!
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