Air them out or not?

I'm sorry he did that to you but at least you found out now and not later on, you are a beautiful woman and deserve better then that mama. I'm always here if you need some one to talk to. Just remember your not alone and your doing amazing

Thank you. I've been in communication with him over the past year and it's mind blowing. Like we were not officially in a relationship. He made it seem as if he was working on his finances and not wanted to pursue a relationship with anyone. I hate being in this position because I'm not a home wrecker and torn on if I should let the girl know what happened or just let it be?

I’m so sorry for the experience you just went through. That behaviour is absolutely appalling and for him to fool you - a good friend, and someone he has known for years, is even worse than worse. You deserve way better than that.

Yes, I think you should tell the other women because he sounds like the person who would do it again. He didn’t respect you or her, and won’t respect the next person. He’s only apologised because he got caught.

Give it some time, maybe a few weeks to allow yourself to heal from this deceit and find your feet, then put together a well written (non emotion and factual) message to her. She can then decide how she’d like to handle this.

Yes! Tell her, she might hate you for it but if it were me I'd want to know! Then you can free her up to find the love of her life

Thank you so much for the feedback. I know for a fact that if I send this information then our friendship is definitely over forever. But then again, why would I want to be friends with a liar. It sucks because I've known him for over 18 years and never thought he would be this type of person. The crazy thing is on social media he comes off as a guy that's all for mental health for men, wellness, community service, kind, but then to find out he's been disrespectful and lying the whole time is such a shocking feeling. I really thought he was different 😔

According to him this was his ex but I had to continue to ask questions for him to tell me that they got back together last year( we have been talking and having sex the past 1.5 years). She has a business that he's a part of and honestly it seems as if he's dependent on her financially. Once I called him out about it he made it seem like it's a " we help each other out thing" and that they work well together. I told him what I'm really in shock of is that he's been in a relationship this entire time and wouldn't have said anything to me if I didn't find out. Like to think today I would have woke up to a good morning love text like it's nothing. Even worse he stated multiple times how he couldn't afford to be in a relationship and that was not his focus until he moves out of his parents house. Like wow! He like completely disregarded her as though she didn't exist at all

you are absolutely correct, the time you’ve known each other is irrelevant in this situation. You definitely don’t want to be friends with him. He destroyed your trust and long-time bond by treating you that way. I’m so sorry you’re in this situation and it took this long for his true colours to show

My stomach has been in knots about this situation. Meanwhile he's still watching my Snapchat stories. It's like the sick feeling of knowing that I just was with him last weekend and now he's with his girlfriend as though nothing has happened. I even told him on Wednesday ( when I found out which was his bday) at what point would he have said something? Like who are you? I told him that it's like he was living a double life and he still was trying to down play it by saying he doesn't want me to feel as if he was wasting my time or that I didn't have good memories. Like WTH???

@Tiara he sounds like a serious turd! Girl I am so sorry that sucks so bad and thats an understatement, I still would tell her though but that's just me

Air his ass out. No pity for these types of men.

I'm wondering if he finally admitted it. See the post above. Like oh ok, God already was looking out before I could say anything. I might just wait it out a few weeks then send her a screenshot showing what he said about not being in a relationship with anyone when I asked back in November but yet he's been with her since February of last year?? Yeah he's a fake! I can't believe I thought he was different. We had such a great friendship

🙄… smh DMing you

@Tiara if he's kissed you and done more then yes you should tell her she has a right to know tell her the truth tell her you had no idea till now and just be honest, how she wants to take it or handle it will be up to her but in the end you did the right thing if that was my man I would want the girl to tell me that's how I look at it

Smh we were just intimate last weekend 🤦🏾‍♀️. I've been involved with him for awhile and I'm still in shock! I believe things have already hit the fan because he made this whole post on social media( see above comment). Then he had the nerve to try to blame life. Ummm take accountability for being a liar and cheater. He's disrespectful and there's no telling if I wasn't the only one besides his girlfriend that he's been dishonest to. Gonna give myself time to cool off and send her a message in a professional manner to show it's coming from a good place and not out of spite. He's the loser in this situation because he hid this information from both of us obviously

@Tiara I see yea your better off and by the sound of it she will be too I know this hurts and sucks but you will get throw this you are strong mama keep your head up high 🙂

he might also have posted that to make you THINK she already knows. I’d approach her anyway. But that’s just me.

💜Thank you so much!

I'm letting things calm down but I'm still snitching regardless. I'm planning to gather screenshots that show all evidence and state that I just found out that she was in a relationship and feel that the situation is not fair to her either. From there she can decide what she wants to do