Everything is just so overwhelming and this move was a mistake and my organization skills are terrible, I feel like a bad mom I just need clarity or something ugh.

So here's a few things going on and I don't expect anyone to read but if you do please share thoughts thank you :) first off I have a 5 year old and a 7 month old.
Ok we moved to Oregon after living in Arkansas my kids dad and I aren't together but we life together. It's incredibly stressful because his organization is terrible and his consistently is terrible. So I'm now a stay at home mom and CONTANTLY doing things to entertain my 7 mo and my year old not going to lie pushes so many buttons he just exausts me. I hate this feeling like I'm not doing enough with them and I have no savings I don't understand how people flipping to this and have a house and money and can't afford to live here next year so I'll have to move farther out of the city which is fine because I hate the city and with my son I just let him play switch because if he doesn't he won't let his sister nap and I'm just lost in life like is the whole point? Raise kids try to get through the day and keep up with bills and appointments and just lacking any sense of enjoyment this last month and I dont want meds I just don't understand what others are doing to make this work I'm so damn tired of it.

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I am here on this one with you. I have an almost 3 year old and an almost 7 month old. It is fucking hard. I am a stay at home mom other than going to school 3 hours outta the week to get my nursing degree. Their dad doesn’t help much at all when he is home and it gets incredibly frustrating I am doing this 100% alone. I am in Ohio and my family is back in California. I have no support system here and it sucks so much. I struggle daily and I hate that we pretty much just live off of my military disability checks. We are getting by but not nearly as much as I would like to. I am definitely feelings how you are feeling and it is a lot and it is very stressful. But as long as your babies are fed, warm, in a safe place, and loved I think you’re doing an amazing job mama.

Exactly my kids are so well off but how are other people buying houses and have retirement money. I'm just so lost.

I definitely do not have retirement money, but me and my husband are getting a house. It is just big enough for all 4 of us. Only 1159sqft but it’ll be ours. Took a lot of work to get there! It’s not easy definitely not gunna say that. But I get disability since I got outta the military and I am able to use a va loan which doesn’t make someone to have money for a down payment so that helps

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Would it bother you if your husband was hanging out with his sister at 4am in a closed bedroom upstairs while you’re in bed downstairs?

My sister in law is visiting/spending the night and we haven’t seen her in over a year because of living abroad. I have some past trauma from my own family so I was triggered when my husband saw that I was almost asleep at 4am when he was up playing video games and instead of coming to bed, went upstairs to chat with his sister. But I sound crazy even saying anything because it’s his sister, right? Is it inappropriate? Am I buggin? Would you feel uncomfortable?

3 year old saying teachers hit him at daycare

My son started daycare at 2, he is now 3 and shakes with fear and cries at daycare drop off. He doesn’t want to go and when I ask him why, he says his teacher is mean to him and that she hits him in the back. I put a lot of thought in choosing this daycare. There is one particular teacher that he always says is mean to him. However, there is another teacher that he likes, and he specifically asks for her and is ok to be with her. Could this be true that his teacher hits him? Should I bring it up to the daycare management? Have your children said something similar and it turned out to be true? My husband thinks he is saying this to get out of going to daycare. My son is very attached to me and wants to spend every second of the day with me. He won’t even let his dad do anything for him, it’s always mommy. My heart is breaking. I don’t want to strain our relationship with the daycare, but is it appropriate to bring up my concerns and tell them that my son says he is being hit at daycare? Sorry, it’s a little bit of a rant. Please respond with your thoughts on what you would do.

Screen or paper — how do you handle story time?

My husband is working on a kids’ reading app and it’s got me thinking — do you prefer your kids read on a tablet or a physical book? Curious what other moms think and why!

AITAH?

My husband’s therapist told him to start doing an exercise with me and tell me one thing every day that he’s gained in the last 3 years.

His first response yesterday was our daughter his first born.

I got upset that this was his first response. His defense was that his kids come first and always. Which okay wasn’t fully expecting him to say me or anything BUT we have 2 other kids and he didn’t say the kids he named her specifically.

I get she’s his first born but he spoils her rotten she’s always getting new stuff and toys and things and the other girls really don’t granted my oldest is always getting in trouble and usually grounded and our youngest is still a baby but I can’t help but feel like she’s his favorite and shows it loudly. She’s even his screen saver just her and him.

Am I wrong to have gotten annoyed/upset? I told him I just didn’t think that was gunna be his answer.

Idk maybe I’m taking it out of proportion 🤷🏻‍♀️

..... divorce or marriage counseling?

2 kiddos, no DV, No cheating. Financially we are okay, slowly moving up in physical stability. However emotionally and physically we seem to hate each other. To be honest I cannot stand him anymore. I spent the whole time giving myself to my newborns, then to him. He can't even tell me I am pretty, or appreciated, or.... anything, besides argue and diminish me. I cannot stand him.

He hasn't been evil.

Do I do therapy (which will be its own fight)
Or just start paperwork?

Do kids learn more in nursery or childminders ? Debating where to put my child 😭

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