Anxiety !

Bit of a long and strange one and I know people might not reply.

My LO is 8 days old and for the first few days I was fine holding her. Till I realised I don’t think I was fully supporting her neck when picking her up out her crib or getting into a position to burp. It’s not like she was fully flopping her neck but occasionally she would either have her head go back or forward (she still does regardless of support) and so I decided to google “not supporting baby’s neck” which has led me down a wormhole of brain damage from not supporting their necks leading to cerebral palsy and I’ve now basically traumatised myself that this will happen all because of me and now I get scared holding her or getting her into burping positions especially.

I am fully aware I have postpartum aniexty but is this really something I should be worried about does it really take that much to cause brain damage or a babies not as fragile as i’m making out?

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Have her pediatrician check her out. The best way to fight fear is with information! Take a deep breath! The first week after a birth is a lot. To make you feel better, I did something similar once - I forgot about my daughter’s fontanelle when sleep-deprived & briefly thought it was a deformity haha.

New born are very floppy, unfortunately, hence why they need us to support them. My girl even when holding her to burp would arch her back and throw her head back and I kept on getting worried that she will give herself whiplash or some kind of injury or that I would drop her if she kept slipping out my hands. This never happened and soon her neck got stronger with more tummy time, and now she is one of the strongest. But as a mother you will always worry but I wouldn't go as far as saying brain damage or cerebral palsy that's more from shaken baby syndrome.

I also have anxiety and can only say the probably unhelpful of advice of - stay off google. You are absolutely fine and are doing a great job don’t let google make you spiral and anytime you notice yourself going on there, capture your thoughts and challenge them that nothing indicates that anything is wrong, go and get her checked if needed and just continue to do it the way you have now learned. Don’t stress you’re doing great!

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